How Do You Prevent Being Derailed as a Boss or Leader?

While studies cite the lack of confidence and accountability as to why many bosses/leaders fail, too often, the culprit is that bosses/leaders are know-it-alls, and this attitude causes poor communication!

As a result, these bosses/leaders talk too much, alienate others due to poor listening skills, and miss hearing important information. How familiar does this sound regarding your experiences with a boss or as a boss?

The challenge is accepting that you don’t know everything and adjusting your attitude when people are talking. It starts with your communication style.

Communication Skills to Prevent Career Derailment

1. Adjust Your Expectations. When a team member, co-worker, or boss talks, listen! Adjust your usual listening from “I’ve heard this before” to “What can I learn?” – even when you’ve heard it before!

2. Be Aware of Your Actual Strengths and Weaknesses. Understanding yourself requires using a qualified job fit assessment. Otherwise, most assessment results will show how you want to be seen – but NOT how others see you (this is critical since people want to work with bosses/leaders they can trust)! Until you have this information, you may communicate in a manner that is not you – alienating others from listening to you. Work with an executive coach to address your communication blind spots.

3. Develop Your Business Acumen. It’s time to discuss numbers, results, and the bottom line. Be sure you’re talking facts by understanding what the numbers, results, and bottom line represent, not how you “feel” about them. Others stop listening if you use the word “I feel” too often.

4. Develop Emotional Intelligence (EI). Manage your emotions and develop compassion as you address people, technical, and financial challenges. You will develop confidence by listening more than talking and focusing on results instead of buying into the “it won’t work” mindset. Encourage everyone to talk through conflicts, difficult conversations, and factions, not avoid them.

5. Stay Informed and Open to Learning. This is a superpower! You must keep up with industry and professional trends and changes. Listening, reading, and asking questions is the best place to start. Then, have conversations with industry experts -- you will make better decisions and speak knowledgeably when addressing competitive issues and leveraging data.

6. Empower Your Team Members. You can empower your team members through your listening and asking open-ended questions. This encourages them to bring solutions when there is a problem instead of relying on you for the answers.

7. Address Issues with your executive coach and industry mentor. Get the facts and do this before making decisions. Learn how to create win-win-win outcomes by listening more than talking and setting aside your ego: “I already know/did this.” Instead, ask, “What am I missing?”

8. Get Your Brag On! When done correctly, bragging builds confidence and the ability to influence others. Remember to develop your ability to use your brags to pitch, negotiate, and sell your ideas.

?Jeannette Seibly 2024 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly is a Talent Advisor/Leadership Results Coach with over 32 years of practical experience guiding leaders and bosses to improve their hiring, coaching, and managing practices and produce amazing results! And yes, achieving business success always starts with having the right people in the right jobs! She has been an Authorized PXT Select? Partner for over 33 years. Contact Jeannette to learn more about these state-of-the-art job-fit assessment tools or how to coach and manage your people to achieve incredible results.

A note from Jeannette: Many bosses/leaders today are unaware of how their communication style, poor listening habits, and being a know-it-all can hinder their success. Often, it causes career derailment. Need guidance to improve your communication as a boss/leader? Contact me.

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