How do you prepare for imperfection?
If I had a dollar?for every person who told me they couldn’t write because they were a “perfectionist,” well, I wouldn’t need to write this column because I could afford to sit on a beach in the Caribbean and sip Mai Tais right now.
The bigger issue for people who don’t write is that?they usually have poor impulse control. This means that they can’t stop themselves from checking email or Facebook — or worse, going out for coffee or beer with friends — when they ought to be writing. I learned this nugget during an interview with Piers Steel, the author of the terrific book?The Procrastination Equation.
But there is one way in which?being a perfectionist can really undo you?and that’s by making you feel?surprised?when things go wrong. Perfectionists usually imagine there is just?one?thing they need to do in order to finish a task. For the sake of argument, let’s say they decide they need to muster the determination to spend five hours writing a report. Spend those five hours, they figure, and they’ll finish the report and their supervisor will be super impressed.
And what do you imagine happens next?
First, of course they’re going to have difficulty finding the five hours. We’re all busy people and we have many demands on our attention. Can you remember the last time you had five entire hours that were unspoken for? So, this is where the perfectionist — let’s call him or her Morgan — first goes wrong. Morgan doesn’t think to break the task into smaller, more manageable portions.
But let’s be wildly optimistic?and assume Morgan?does?find the five hours. The next problem — which crops up immediately — is that Morgan doesn’t feel inspired. Sitting at a desk in front of a computer seems dull and boring and Morgan immediately starts to feel “hemmed in.” Morgan expects that writing is a creative activity and needs to feel inspired. (Morgan is unfamiliar with the?Peter de Vries?quote: “I write when I’m inspired, and I see to it that I’m inspired at nine o’clock every morning.”)
But let’s renew our optimism?and imagine that Morgan experiences a minor miracle and manages to break through the first 15 minutes and is able to start putting words on the screen. In fact, things even go reasonably well for the first 30 minutes but then,?oh no, Morgan hits a road block. This writing business is much harder work than he or she had imagined. Morgan looks at the clock. There are 4.5 more hours to go. Yikes! That’s going to be intolerable.
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Now let’s put our optimism on life support?and imagine that, somehow, Morgan manages to persist for the five hours and produces a?crappy first draft. He or she reads it and becomes totally deflated because the writing is not nearly as good as expected or hoped. “I really can’t write,” Morgan concludes. “I shouldn’t have wasted those five hours on this dreck.”
Morgan’s mistake, however, was?not?being a bad writer. The error was failing to make a plan for all the things that can — and often will — go wrong. If you are a perfectionist who feels there’s just one thing you need to do to be able to write (usually, have enough time), take the time?to prepare for the following obstacles:
Finally, recognize that a?crappy first draft?— really crappy — should not discourage you; it should make you?happy. In fact, you should ASPIRE to having a crappy first draft, because it is proof you were able to write without editing. (We all need editing, of course, but the best time to do it is?after writing, after you’ve taken a break.)
None of us is perfect, particularly not me. That’s why I always?plan?for disaster. And if disaster doesn’t occur, I can enjoy being very pleasantly surprised.
This post first appeared on The Publication Coach blog. ?
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2 年I like the ending??. It’s so true, it’s best to prep for a total disaster, than dash your hopes all to the ground because you felt the writing process was going to be all rainbows and unicorns. I enjoyed your piece Daphne, it was helpful and insightful.