How do you make others feel says a lot about you!

My philosophy of life is very simple, I treat people the way I want to be treated by them. You make people feel good by showing them their importance, believing in them and give them the support that they need in hard times. Also by listening to them when you listen to them when they talk to you, for instance shut the voices in your head and give your attention to them when they are talking to you. When you are caring, make them feel that you care about them, show them that there presence in your life is important

Given genuine appreciation, always know when and how to show your love to people by thanking them on good things that they have been doing especially when they 're used to do it, even if it was simple and effortless. Also make them feel warm and fuzzy! it may sound strange but people like to be comfortable when they communicate, so gentle touch while greeting won't harm. Always smile and be positive, try avoiding over talking about problems instead try to initiate hope for better future.

When you show interest with curiosity, this particular ability of changing boring,dull conversation into interesting, teasing talk is a worthy talent that you would better start developing. When a grieving person comes to you , the first and foremost thing you should realize is that person trusts you. People show their vulnerable sides to people whom they trust or believe they can help them logically or emotionally. Hence you are in a responsible position. In that case, rather than throwing away some advice on how to make people feel good, i will rather say what I choose to do when I am in this position.

And if I am meeting them then I look them in the eye with a slight smile which can assure them that whatever it is, it will pass and you both together can get through the situation. If I am on a phone call , I say that I am listening to them. I assure them that I will try and understand what they are feeling. And then I listen to them. Patiently and try to listen with an intent to really appreciate their place and where they are coming from.

I try to give them a way out such that it normally works for them. Not merely what I feel and what I stand by. Everyone does not work the same way. Hence when I try to help someone else I make sure I put myself into their shoes and see what it might feel like and then dare to pass a comment. Your tone of addressing their problems and your choice of words can make your efforts worthy or just put them in the drain. Once I feel I have been successful into at least getting themselves believe that they can tackle and handle what ever it is, I remind them about all the times they succeeded In their lives.

I let them know what are the qualities that I admire in them and show them the side of themselves which is worthy of appreciation . Because everyone has one thing or the other which is worthy of appreciation. I fill them up with some confidence and love. I've noticed that few good words go a long way! Today, build someone else tell them what you love about them, let them know that they too can work wonders.

Don't say "It is nice to meet you" especially if you are just introduced. Think of some questions that will stimulate conversation. For example, if you meet someone new at a party, you could say, "Jayesh always invites the most interesting people. I am anxious to hear more about you and how you became friendly with Jayesh." After the initial introduction and initial conversation, you need to extract from that person's words more detailed information. If he/she mentions that she met Sarah while working on Wall Street, then you can ask many questions about the job such as whether or not he/she liked the work or were there some things he/she didn't like about the job.

And if you have some knowledge about working on Dalal Street stock market this would be a great time to talk about your experiences. Try to find a topic that you both enjoy discussing. For example, you could ask that person if he/she like to go to some plays. If the answer is yes, then you will have a great time discussing actors, favorite directors, theaters, and so forth. Therefore find some common ground which is more familiar to both of you.

Particularly when he gets subjected to mocking and becomes a stock of laughter, tell him how it is fine to be different. Let him know that you don’t care about him being wonderfully weird or weirdly wonderful as long as he is a good human being. This will make him feel good. Also when he succumbs to his guilt and asks you for forgiveness, bury the grudge and forgive him. Tell him how you expected him to be better and how you still do.

This too will make him feel good. And when he feels down, tell him how you passed through the same phase days ago. Let him know how easy it is to tackle problems when one stays strong. This will make him feel good as well. Conversing with generosity and sincerity always makes one feel good irrespective of the fact that if that one is a listener or a speaker. Cheers!