How do you know if you're on the right path?

I'm settling back into life in the UK, where I'll be for the summer, and it's been making me think a lot about the question of paths... Like how do you?know?if you're on the right path? How do you know if another path would be better?

Coming home always brings up this thing in me that says 'What if this path is better than the one you're on?' which inevitably throws up all kinds of anxiety and existential thinking... but the more I sit with it, the more I realise this:?

There is no right path

Of course, there are some paths which are completely out of alignment with the true essence of YOU (banking was that for me), but once you've hop-skipped and jumped off of the path of complete self-abandonment and into a life that is closer to who you are...

The question of paths becomes more nuanced.?

The truthiest truth that I've come to is this:

When we get into the space of desperately wanting to figure out the 'right' way..what we are?really?trying to do is figure out the path that will have the LEAST difficulty possible.?

Our subconscious is searching for the safest option:?

The version of life where no bad things happen, where we never feel regret or loss or fear or guilt or shame.

And let me tell you this..

THAT LIFE DOESN'T EXIST

What does exist is two, or three or four paths ahead of you... all with challenges, all with beauty, all with loss, all with gain.?

If we try to choose our life paths based on the false idea that it is possible to live a life without pain, we will end up in no man's land for a long time, swaying between paths and never committing to anything.?

So commit.?

Grieve the paths you didn't choose and use that grief to fuel your commitment to the one you choose.?

And if you're still stuck.... choose the path that is most likely to support you in becoming the version of you that you dream of becoming.. even if it feels sh** scary.?

L x?

P.S. I have ONE space opening up for 1-1 work supporting you to make aligned choices and step into the version of you that you dream of becoming...book a call here .?

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