How do you get attracted to others?

Kindness is always appealing. In 2014, researchers from China observed that when people hear something good about a person they find him or her more physically attractive. So be kinder - this will improve others' view of you and make the world a better place. Guys would be intimidated to approach a girl who seems busy. If you want him to make a move on you, play around with some object, act idle or pretend like you’re bored. It sends the right signals to let him know you’re waiting for him to make a move. Don’t be loud and rowdy.

Ever come across a beautiful and feminine-looking woman at a restaurant, and felt absolutely charmed by the way she looked, ate, and behaved? Got completely turned off the moment she opened her mouth and amplified her opinions to the entire restaurant? Leave the noise-making and rowdy behavior to frat boys, and start lowering your volume when you’re out in public. No one likes a loudmouth, even less so when she’s drunk and can’t control her verbal diarrhea.

Unless you are giving a speech or presentation, ensure that your voice does not carry past the person next to you. Awkwardness. It’s alright to feel awkward around a guy. In fact, that’ll make you look cuter. Instead of concealing your awkwardness, use it to your advantage. Don’t try to be perfect. There is no such thing as the perfect relationship. No matter how amazing couples online seem, there are always issues. Don’t avoid hard discussions or fights just to seem like things are great. Society can often make us feel like we need to be the perfect partners, but a piece of relationship advice for women is that it is your relationship.

Be yourself. No one is perfect. Don’t throw yourself at him. If you want to know how to seduce a guy, never ever throw yourself at him or let him know that you think he’s hot stuff. By letting a guy know that you’re already interested in him, he wouldn’t feel excited by any of your antics. He’ll just assume you’re trying really hard to get his attention. And you don’t want that. When you let a guy know you like him, it’ll make him start the game of playing hard to get with you. Instead of seducing a guy, you’ll end up looking trashy and clingy. Always make it look like he’s the one pursuing you, even if you’re laying a seduction trail for him with each step you take.

This depends on the type of guy. "Personality guys" ( guys who are funny or sarcastic ) will come right out and ask you out. "Successful guys" will nonchalantly mention their career or job title to bait you for conversation. "Handsome guy" will have a hard time. He will position himself near you, and awkwardly fake interest in his phone or peel a label off a beer bottle, while occasionally laughing at your jokes or initiate small talk, but if you don't get the message he is hesitant to put himself out there. "Smart guy" will engage you in conversation usually by making fun of other people or asking your opinion on something and compliment your mind. "Perv guy/married guy" will comment on your body within the first ten minutes.

It's my friend’s wedding. Dj plays my favourite song. Friends try to pull, but I hardly move. “I will look stupid,” I reply. They leave. Dj plays another song. This time, enters a middle aged, half bald uncle. His sweat perfume forcing others to make a way. He smiles, he boozes, he dances. Following the footsteps of Salman, he even crushes a few. Yet, the weight of his family pack dare not crush his spirit. He looks vulnerable, yet elegant. They laugh, he dances. He is tired, his spirit is not. In a bucket full of perfectionists, his imperfect moves sprinkle enough confidence, which rinse all my insecurities. This carefree nature makes him attractive, instantly! “Jhakas!” I shout, and join in. [Superb!] He crushes me too! (-_-)

There are 3 things that drive me crazy. Any one of these is enough for me to write a cute note around a brick and hurl it through your bedroom window at 2am. Because I’m an old-school romantic and I won’t apologise for it. But all three of these things? That’s the holy trinity of attractiveness. The father, the son and the holy hell you are sexy. They are drum roll…Curves, Tattoos and High Ponytails turn me on. If you have curves, tattoos or a high ponytail I will throw my Grandmother through a window to get closer to you.

And Grandma knows it too. We had to install fake Hollywood glass at her house because of all the lacerations she was getting when ‘Keeping Up With The Kardashians’ came on. So, let’s break down why each of these is so damn sexy to me. Why Curves? There’s nothing more feminine to me than a woman who needs an extra few seconds getting her jeans on. Curvy bodies are like amusement parks. Except I only like coming to one of those things with my little brother…Hell, if there’s a rise and fall to your silhouette in any way then I am subscribing to your newsletter. You’re rocking a weapon of mass erections and I’m pro war.

Not sure if you should order fries because you had a single grain of salt back in 2008? Enjoy your life. Ready to order extra fries because you’re a badass bitch who knows how good fries are? You’re a wife. Say what you will, but curves mean more up top. And more down below. And look, just because there’s never been an earthquake in the history of Sydney ever, doesn’t mean there might not be one tomorrow. And if I need to grab hold of someone for support, then your fine ass body will keep me safe.

And why Tattoos? Uhhhhh. have you seen tattoos on a woman? I’ve heard people say ‘but why would you put spray paint on a Ferrari?’. First of all, I don’t go on Instagram creeping on pictures of Ferraris. So your logic is flawed. And secondly…shut up, that’s why. I know ink isn’t for everyone, but if a woman is bold and brash enough to permanently ink her body, then she is ticking multiple boxes. I don’t really care what that tattoo is either. You’ve got a dove on your shoulder? Sexy.

You’ve got a butterfly on your lower back? Hot. You’ve got a super-realistic photo of you and your deceased husband on your wedding day, covering your entire back? Look we can cover that up with a shirt or something. Still, the point remains, tattoos on woman are one of the sexiest thing ever. Why High Ponytails? I don’t know about this one to be honest. Was I molested by an older man with a ponytail as a child and I’ve projected all my pent up pain on women in adulthood? Or are high ponytails just attractive?

I need to be clear here too. If you’re wearing a regular ponytail I will spit on you as I walk past. But the second you slide that thing up your head a few inches, I’m hooked. You can wear that style at the gym, at the grocery store, at the woods while you bury a body. It’s just so versatile! Look, what I’m really trying to say is that physical attraction is super subjective. And while these are 3 of my physical triggers, if you’re a nice person who doesn’t beat puppies, you’ll still have a ton going for you. Who am I kidding, you can also get away with beating puppies if you tick my 3 boxes. With that said, please leave a comment if you… a). have curves, b). have a tattoo, c). have a high ponytail Cheers!