How do you feel about uncertainty?

How do you feel about uncertainty??

That's when you're not certain of something, which means you don't know, which means you're not in control, which means you don't know how to respond and you don't know what's going to happen. It typically means that you're not safe, and being not safe is not what the brain likes.?

The brain likes safe until it's had too much safety, then it likes excitement and uncertainty.?

I'm wondering how your brain is balanced because we all need both!

Even those people who serve safety and certainty, who absolutely love it and they need everything - they're routined, they've got schedules, maybe even a bit of obsessive-compulsive disorder. Even those people, every now and then, need a bit of excitement and uncertainty.?

And then there are some people, a bit like me, who prefer uncertainty. Having spent most of my life gambling, to which there was no end that was good, but there was a lot of uncertainty during that time. I didn't know if I was going to win, lose, come out winning or losing, and during the whole time I was gambling on slot machines in casinos, I never did know how it was going to end up. And at some points I was winning a lot of money, and then at other points I was losing a lot, and with the press of a button, could win it all back. And that lack of certainty, absolutely drives people with dopamine compulsions and addictions.?

I'm wondering what yours is... Do you prefer uncertainty or certainty? The reason I'm asking you this as a business owner, is it will really depict how you run your business.?

If you prefer certainty, we need some structures. We need a strategy, we need routines, we need methodologies, we need content creation plans, we need financial structures and projections, we need things that help the brain say, Ah, I don't have to think about that anymore. It's all sorted. I just need to follow the plan.?

If you serve uncertainty, therefore you prefer freedom, and not knowing what's happening, and actually being able to be creative, be spontaneous, launch things at a moment's notice, and understand and get that thrill of whether people are going to have it or not; that will depict how you own your business.?

This also depicts who you should have helping you, because some coaches are better at other things, and some are better at certainty, and some of us really understand the needs of everyone and can adapt how they're mentoring and coaching.?

Mentoring is a very different thing to coaching and I get asked all the time, “What is the difference?”

With mentoring, someone is telling you how to do it. They're advising you. They're steering you based on their own experience, and their own thoughts and feelings, and usually their own successes. Typically, mentors have been where you want to be, or they are where you want to be, and they're going to give you that helping hand to get there.?

Coaches, on the other hand, are not doing that. Essentially, a qualified coach, certainly my Deep Structure NLP Coaches, can coach anything. Anything that anyone has going on inside or outside of them, should they choose to. Because it's all about asking really intelligent, clever, well-timed, well-toned, clean Language unbiased questions.?

So, if you need answers because there's lots going on is inside, you need a Coach. If you need mentoring, because you've got your stuff sorted inside, but you just don't even know what to do outside, then you probably need a Nentor. And I strongly suggest that you choose one that matches your pace and rhythm, because if you like uncertainty, you're probably very visual, you're very quick-paced - you probably speak quicker (like me). And if you like lots of certainty, you like high detail. Things need to be slower, more accurate and precise, and possibly, a bit slower in general.?

Just make sure that when you're choosing a coach, or a mentor, or a trainer, a Mastermind or coaching programme; that they have got the pace and the ability to help you with certainty and uncertainty, to keep that balance exactly as your brain likes it and that way She-Enjoys, She-Evolves and She-Thrives!