How Do We Adapt When Our 5 Basic Needs Are Not Met?

I often teach my clients about the 5 fundamental needs that all human beings have.

These are developmental needs that emerge from infancy through, roughly, the first 8 years of life and become the templates we build upon as adults.

Our 5 fundamental needs are:

1. Seeking Safety

2. Seeking Connection

3. Seeking Power

4. Seeking Freedom

5. Seeking Validation

When our needs aren’t met by our primary caretakers, we develop unique (yet universal) responses, that unless consciously addressed, will deem our fate in future relationships and control many aspects of our lives unbeknownst to us.

For each missing experience, each unmet need, we unconsciously adapt in ways that later define our relationships to ourselves, others, and the world.

“Until you allow the unconscious to become conscious, it will rise up to you as your life and you will call it your fate.”

— CARL JUNG

If you want to dive deeper into the nuances of how seeking to solve these five basic needs looks like in our adult relationships, check out my e-book, “How to Rewire Limiting Relationship Patterns to Deepen Trust and Intimacy.”

Link here: https://anne-mariemarron.com/ebook