How do I get along with a coworker who has different political views?

Dear Kim,

I often find myself in not-so-casual conversations with a colleague who doesn’t share my same political beliefs. It’s starting to affect our relationship at work. How do I get along with a coworker who has different political views?

Signed,

Professionally and Politically Exhausted in VT

Dear Professionally and Politically Exhausted,

I’ve been in your shoes! Disagreeing with someone is tough, especially when you’re constantly around them. When things get political, though, this goes beyond “how to handle workplace conflict” and ventures into more emotional territory.?

Here’s the good news. You and your coworker have more in common than you realize! You both want to feel valued, seen, heard, appreciated, and loved. These values are intrinsically part of our identity as human beings and something that you and your coworker will always share. It’s ok to disagree — but approach every conversation and interaction with respect.???

The next time you and your coworker are about to draw claws, I want you to remember three things:?

1. Be curious. Ask your coworker questions and seek to understand where they’re coming from. Observe, don’t react. Then, use what you’ve learned to better understand where you are coming from. When you understand why you feel the way you do, it’s easier to articulate it to someone else. Try saying: “I feel this way because …(fill in the blank).” You’ll shift your mindset from judgemental assumptions to curious, positive intent and open the door for healthy conversation. ?
2. Assume the best, not the worst. It’s easy to start a social media fight or unfollow someone on Facebook or Instagram because they don’t share your political point of view. But that won’t change minds or policies. Take the high road and give your coworker the benefit of the doubt. Put the situation and their views in the best light. Maybe they’re supporting a candidate that will increase funding for their child’s public education. Maybe they’re supporting a policy that will increase the size of the park near their home. When you assume the best, you create a space of engagement and dialogue, which fosters a whole host of benefits, from strengthening morale to team resilience, and more!
3. Live with integrity. You’re capable of doing better. (So am I! We all are!) Find the courage, confidence, and determination to keep moving forward and keep connecting with your coworker even when you disagree.?

(Pssst. You can use the above when learning how to handle workplace conflict beyond politics and election season, too!? Read more in this month’s blog. ) One final thought: connection is the heartbeat of life—and leadership. When you take the time to understand where both you and your coworker are coming from, it’s easier to assume the best. You’ll find ways to build a positive work environment and genuine conversation, while diffusing conflict in a healthy way.?

Here’s to Showing Up For Each Other with Respect,?

Kim