How DISCerning Listening Supports Emotional Intelligence
Trevor E S Smith
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How DISCerning Listening Supports Emotional Intelligence
Have you ever felt like you were talking to someone who was speaking a different language?
Do you find it challenging to connect with some people on a deeper level in your personal or professional relationships?
Are you looking to improve your emotional intelligence and communication skills to enhance your overall effectiveness and impact?
OUR GOAL
Emotional intelligence (EI) is a critical sought-after skill for success in both personal and professional settings.
At the heart of Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the capacity to perceive, understand, and regulate your emotions while also responding appropriately to the emotions of others. EI incorporates a range of competencies. One such critical skill is the practice of DISCerning Listening.
In this Success with People? newsletter, we share how DISCerning Listening can drive the enhancement of your Emotional Intelligence. By exploring the principles and techniques of DISCerning Listening, you will gain a deeper understanding of yourself and others, improve your relationships, and cultivate greater emotional intelligence.
DISCERNING LISTENING
DISCerning Listening is a communication strategy that involves understanding and adapting to different listening styles, based on the four basic DISC behavioural styles: Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, and Conscientiousness.
By adapting your communication style to match the listening style of the other person, you will improve your ability to connect, communicate effectively, and build positive relationships.
But how does DISCerning Listening support emotional intelligence? Here are a few ways:
1.?????Self-awareness
To effectively adapt your communication style to match the listening style of another person, you must first be aware of your communication style and preferences. This requires a high level of self-awareness, a critical component of emotional intelligence. Completing a Behavioural DNA assessment is also very helpful. By practising DISCerning Listening, you can develop a greater awareness of your communication style, including how you prefer to offer and receive feedback, as well as give and receive instructions.
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2.?????Empathy:
Empathy is a crucial component of Emotional Intelligence. Paying attention to someone is one of the greatest compliments you can give.
This level of attentive listening helps build rapport and trust, leading to deeper connections with others. Developing DISCerning Listening skills can endear you to others, as you demonstrate that you value and respect their relationship, thoughts and feelings. Practice empathy through DISCerning Listening to enhance your emotional intelligence and improve your relationships.
3.?????Communication:
Through DISCerning Listening, you can develop your ability to articulate your thoughts and feelings clearly and concisely, avoiding misunderstandings and confusion.
DISCerning Listening helps you to be more aware of the patterns and nuances of the communication styles of others. By being attuned to these subtle cues, you can adopt communication styles that will improve your influence and impact.
For example, you might adjust your tone, pace, or choice of words to better align with the listener's preferences, making it easier for them to understand and engage with you.
This level of adaptability is a hallmark of emotional intelligence and is essential for building strong relationships and achieving positive outcomes in both personal and professional domains.
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4. Relationship-building:
DISCerning Listening gives you the ability to quickly identify the communication style of the other party and to adjust your style to make them feel more comfortable. This also enhances understanding and creates a platform for bonding.
For example, if we are communicating with a D-style listener, who tends to be results-driven and direct, we might want to move quickly towards the bottom line. In contrast, if we are communicating with an S-style listener, who values empathy and harmonious relationships, we might want to show patience and understanding and allow them time to process their thoughts before responding.
When we take the time to understand and adapt to the communication style of the other person, we show that we value their perspective and are invested in the relationship. This creates a platform for bonding and builds trust.
Pulling It Together
In a professional setting, relationship-building can be critical for success. By practising DISCerning Listening, you can foster positive relationships with your colleagues, clients, and stakeholders, leading to more productive collaborations and better outcomes.
Overall, DISCerning Listening can be a powerful tool for building relationships and establishing a strong foundation for effective communication. By adapting your style to match the other party's communication style, you can create a sense of trust and understanding, leading to more positive interactions and improved team dynamics.
By practising DISCerning Listening, you can develop a greater sense of self-awareness, empathy, communication skills, and relationship-building skills, all of which are essential components of emotional intelligence. By adapting your communication style to match the listening style of others, you can improve your ability to connect, communicate effectively, and build positive relationships, ultimately leading to greater success and happiness in all areas of life.
If you are tired of feeling misunderstood or not heard appropriately during important conversations, take action to develop your DISCerning Listening skills.
Start by requesting a no-commitment, no-cost copy of my “DISCerning Listening” publication to get seven keys to DISCerning Listening in an aesthetically pleasing, easily digestible format.
Send me an email at [email protected] to request your personal copy.
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Context
Have you ever struggled to communicate effectively with someone who seemed to be from a different world? In this Success with People Newsletter, we explore how DISCerning Listening can help bridge communication gaps and improve relationships.
Do you want to enhance your Emotional Intelligence and build stronger connections with others? Discover how DISCerning Listening can help you become more aware of your own communication style and better understand those around you.
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