How To Date Successfully When Stuff Is Going On

This is a really tough month for me. I'm dealing with a court trial that began on Thursday and not to get all personal but I'm an open book and if you've been following me you probably know that I have a former husband.

Love can be messy and though things are over there’s oftentimes when one doesn’t want to move forward.

We don't know what we don't know and if you don't see anything wrong, if you’re unable to see your part in both the beginning and the ending of a relationship, it can be that much harder to heal and move forward. It's not fun for anyone involved. But healing can happen and happiness can return.

Because of the stress, I haven't been taking care of myself and I've begun making poor choices including eating a bizarre mix of both plain and peanut M&Ms, 3 different kinds of nuts and Fritos and Cheetos. It's the unhealthy version of trail mix. I've also been staying up late writing my cross-examination and waking up at 6am to do my morning rituals, the same rituals I teach my clients who don't have to wake up early to do it. This morning routine allows me to stay grounded and brings me such an incredible abundance of good quality people (including dates), situations and circumstances.

I'm grateful I'm able to reframe this entire 1.5 year drama and after going from crying and feeling over my head, I'm now able to appreciate how capable I've been in representing myself and learning the intricacies of the law. I've always wanted to be a lawyer and now I get to be one without years of law school and working 80+ hours a week. What a gift!

During this time, most people wouldn't put themselves out there and date. But, I'm definitely not like most people, am I? I'm a date attraction expert and dating is something that has allowed me to heal by forgetting about myself and focusing on the other person.

That's one of my secrets to dating successfully, taking myself out of the equation and really getting to know the other person and allowing him to get to know me. As I'm telling stories and hearing his I don't think about myself. I don't care if I no longer have make-up on the bottom half of my face because it's all come off on my pretty 3-layered floral mask. I don't hate myself for gaining what was the Covid 10 and is now the Covid 15.

All I care about is whether or not I'm having fun.

I ask myself the next day after I've had time to reflect on the date, am I interested in him?

Did he ask thoughtful questions and was he interested in my responses or did he monopolize the convo?

Did he put me in a car and ask me to text him to let him know I got home safely?

Is he someone I'm enjoying getting to know?

And the most important question of all...

Did I have fun?

It never crosses my mind to ask myself if he likes me because how I feel about the date is what matters. The days of putting myself second and valuing someone else's thoughts and feelings over my own are over. Doing that can have you get into a relationship that's not a full body yes and has it ending, sometimes badly. And that won't do. Not for me and not for you.

My intention is to help you be so crystal clear about yourself, about the type of relationship that's right for you that the right men will seek you out. That's what happened to Penny. Before working with me, even as a beautiful woman, she would get stood up by men quite often. Within a couple of months of our last session she met a man of quality and they married the following year. I'm happy to announce they have a beautiful child who was born on the loveliest day of the year, Valentines Day.

Imagine...

Meeting an incredible man.

An incredible man who is both funny and fun.

One who treats you well and that you enjoy getting to know.

Imagine having dinner with him and you’re both smiling and happy.

It's a year later and the two of you are back at the restaurant where you had your first official date or maybe you're together in Paris having dinner at a chic little cafe and he brings out a small 1837 Blue box with a white satin ribbon.

What would that be like?

How would you feel?

How would your life be different?

There are many ways of attracting and dating, some work for the short term and others work for the long. What do you want?

I can't make promises but I can teach you how to get what you want. I can teach you how to call in the right man for you. I can teach you how to attract and date and have fun while receiving love, attention and admiration.

It may not be as quick as it was for Penny and Kathleen (their stories are on the website) but it will come.

If you're ready to try something different, if you're ready to dare to date differently, if you're ready to get off the sidelines and date not only smarter but in an entirely different way than what you’ve been doing, I invite you to book a Strategy Call with me.

If it's a year from now and everyone is vaccinated & covid cases have declined and your life is getting back to the way it was and a lot of people are coupled up and you're not, how are you going to feel knowing you spent this time doing nothing or doing the same tired things you've been doing and getting the same exact results because that's all you know.

We don't know what we don't know.

But, there is a better way to build a bigger better mantrap without actually trapping him but allowing him to come to you.

Date intentionally with pleasure and fun,

Elizabeth