How to Create your Ultimate Relationship in 2023

Firstly, a very happy new year to everyone and wishing you a healthy and prosperous 2023.?

It’s obvious to say that there’s no one-size-fits-all formula for creating the ultimate relationship with your partner.?

However, here I’m going to share with you a 15 minute exercise that you can do to help you achieve the ultimate relationship in 2023.?

It’s so simple, yet extremely effective at starting couples off on the right track for the year ahead.

Most couples don’t have a conscious vision or intention

And yet they‘re often disappointed when their dream relationship doesn’t come true.?

They’ve had an unconscious dream, like a picture in their mind and this has been the template as to how they have viewed their relationship experiences.?

What’s really important is to bring into consciousness this ideal picture and make it as specific as possible.?

To ask yourself the question…

What IS really important to me about my ideal relationship?

Then, you can share this dream with your partner so it deepens their understanding.??

To get the best results, we have to first have a Vision.

With the right intentions you will put the right steps in place.

With the right actions you will start to move towards your ideal relationship.

But it’s ultimately up to you to do the work, every day and remind yourself every day?that it’s consistent action over time that will make the difference.

THIS IS THE EXERCISE...

Write 5 intentions that contribute to your dream relationship.

These are short, descriptive, personal, positive and specific sentences.

Think of behaviours you would like to exhibit.

For example:

? How often you want to have sex

? We hold hands when going for a walk

? We talk about our feelings every evening

It really could be anything..

So these are descriptive, personal to you, positively worded and specific behaviours.

You might find it easier to project yourself forward 90 days from now.?

What do you intend to be doing 90 days from now on a regular basis in your relationship??

If it was a 10/10.

What would you be doing?

When you have done this individually, share your 5 intentions with your partner

Important things to remember...

? Actively listen to your partner in full when sharing your intentions.

? You’re not listening to respond or agree. You are simply listening and acknowledging that you have heard what they really want.?

? Both explain in full your individual intentions so you each get a turn.

? Then, take the two individual versions and create a new list of all the intentions that you share or that are very similar.?

? In the middle of this new page, you’ll have all the intentions you share.?

? The items that are different, place these at the sides of the page.

? Look at the ones that are different as areas in which you can grow together and grow towards each other.?

What you have done here is effectively pulled a dream out of your subconscious and brought it into reality.?

It’s now in words, actions and intentions.?

...And it's that simple!

You have completed the process of taking your relationship from an unconscious environment to a conscious partnership.

Give this a try and let me know in the comments how you got on.

Yes, you might also need a range of tools to help with specific challenges in your relationship and if you do, I can help with that too.

I have a list of best practices for this exercise and some additional ideas for the intentions themselves, so drop me a comment below or a private message with the word “BEST” and I’ll send these over to you.?

Here's to a great relationship in 2023!

~Steve~