???? How to consistently get in our way.

In the context of 'success' and having what we want, there's loads of advice on offer.

But what about advice on 'attachment'?

Because, other than making a decision in the true sense of the word...

If there's one thing in our way, it's our attachment to an outcome.

Or more accurately, it's why we get attached.

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Our desires appear to have different origins but there's truly only one source for all of them.

It's within us.

What's different and what matters when it comes to realising our desires is the mental lens we perceive them through.

Because this determines how we entertain and relate to them:

1. I Love it.

2. I would love it.

3. I need it.

4. I can't have it / I don't know if I can / it's not possible / it’s ....

All lenses have their place but if we don't know the mind generates our experience in relation to our mental lenses, we may unknowingly deny, resist, compromise or suppress our desires...

Or we may reason our way out of them because we believe our thoughts are true or that history or current circumstances matter.

Or worse, we believe what someone else tells us!

When the only thing that ever matters is our own relationship with our desires.

Because, if we would love it. (No. 2 above)

The ONLY requirement of us is to love it. (No 1)

By deciding and accepting.

Because love is both full commitment and full acceptance.

And the seeming paradox is that with full acceptance comes complete NON-attachment.

We've got to drop the need.

LOVING WHAT WE'D LOVE.

The truth is that all things are possible and we can have whatever it is we'd love if we'll only love it.

No exceptions. Desires are not torture devices. They arise within us to be realised.

Yet the paradox, or so it seems, is that to have whatever we'd love, we've firstly got to satiate the desire within ourself.

Which is best achieved - again seemingly paradoxically - by stilling the mind and 'doing' nothing.

The point here is perhaps best understood when we consider how we "do" falling in love?

We don't. What we 'do' is fall. We surrender.

In contrast, if we continue to believe we 'need' something or 'might not get' what we desire and we 'do' from this belief, we're?attached.

And we're conditioning our desire with a mental lens which creates resistance to experiencing what we'd love.

We may validate or seek to resolve our fears with all our 'doing' but when we're attached, we're in fear and we're resisting.

All attachment is led - subtly or less subtly - by fear.

Fear arising in the mind from believing what's ultimately not true.

Fear of non-fulfilment.

Fear we won't get what we want or fear we might get what we don't want.

Or fear that we're not worthy, safe, secure, in control unless or until we...

Attachment to any outcome results in suffering.

Suffering being our experience of an unwanted, inner 'dis-quiet'.

What we may describe as a negative feeling.

One which we may seek to resolve through action or activity or 'doing' because we're attributing the 'disquiet' to something other than what it's signalling..

It's signalling to what we're imagining. Consciously or otherwise.

Signalling our non-acceptance.

Signalling our own rejection of our very own desire!

Signalling that we are saying no to ourself.

Letting us know we're entangled in the mind... and overlooking our Self.

ATTACHMENT = NON-ACCEPTANCE.

Attachment is typically characterised by striving, forcing, judging, interfering or seeking to resolve, fix or heal.

Or by trying to control circumstances, others or ourself or find ways to 'make something happen' so we can return to an inner state of stillness.

And whilst any of this may temporarily alleviate symptoms, all such activities are in fact subtle (or less subtle) forms of suppression.

And our continued non-acceptance and suppression may then express in the forms of more fear and doubt, stress, anxiety, depression, inflammation, illness, lethargy, fatigue, pain or dis-ease...

Which may mean we then go seeking to address the symptoms of the symptoms!

Whilst continuing to overlook the root cause.

And, in doing so, we may develop addictions to whatever our 'doings' are.

Whilst still not finding the relief or lasting fulfilment we desire.

The payoff in the short-term may be in the distraction, hope or temporary relief we gain from shuffling our various addictions.

And many of these may represent what's considered to be a 'healthier' or more acceptable response to resolving our suffering....

After all, being dependent on ice-baths, breath-work, plant medicine, meditation, TV, food, exercise or over-working to alleviate suffering may be a great deal more empowering than some of the alternatives.

But what about having what we really want?

What about true freedom from the 'dis-quiet' of mind?

What about our happiness, health, joy, peace, energy, playfulness and fulfilment?

And what about the stuff?

What about the business, money, time, relationships, cars, houses, travel, adventure, sunshine, fitness, etc?

How do we really get all of the things 'we'd love?'

The answer is to love them.

Through purity of intention.

Because pure intention has no wanting or attachment.

Pure intentions have no why other than love.

In becoming aware of a desire - for whatever it is - all we need do is consider whether we'd love to experience it or not?

And when 'doing' so, we may be wise to consider our context.

What is our primary motivation?

Because, if its not for the love of it, we're most likely selling ourself way short!?

Why settle for 4 star and flying premium economy if we'd love 5 star and to fly First?

Why settle for only 8 or 9 weeks holiday a year if we'd love 16 or 20?

Why 'settle' for anything?

(The short answer is belief and non-acceptance).

Then it's about Decision.

Yes, I’m having this in my experience or...

No, I’d prefer something else.

Decision is binary.

Yes or No. This and this, not that or that.

It's a choice of mental lens.

A true decision isn’t wavering. It's not maybe or subject to... or it depends on x y z.

And wise decisions are never made on account of history or reason or circumstances or what we believe is possible or what someone else tells us is or isn't.

Decisions are Choices.

Because when we understand how the mind expresses in relation to our lenses, we understand none of our history, circumstances or current beliefs matter.

All that matters - regardless of history, appearances or circumstance - is:

"What would I now love?"

and...

"Am I willing to accept my decision.... within myself and love it?"

We don’t need a why other than 'for the love of it'.

Choosing for the love of it is how the game is designed to be played.

And if we're willing to play this way, then we’re free.

Free to live as we'd love to. Now, not at some point in the future.

Free to satiate and enjoy our desires now.

Free to live in the present and to be wide open and surrendered to how we'll be moved.

Open to what unfolds.

Free from the mental prison sentence of feeling the need to control.

Unattached, we restore the playfulness, freedom, creativity and joy we had as kids and which, as adults, we ‘desire’ and long to return to.

Play isn't shoehorned into small windows; it becomes our entire experience.

And then we see through the ultimate paradox!

Now we realise we've always had what we've always wanted.

Our Self.

The desire behind all of our desires is the desire to return to self.

Whole, complete, healthy, abundant, happy, spontaneous, fulfilled, joyful, free.?

Free from any sense of lack.

The return to full, unconditional, self-acceptance.

Self-Love in the purest sense.

Now we see that this is our True Purpose!

Freedom from the mind, free from the belief that we need to improve or fix or develop or struggle or strive to have whatever is we'd love.

Now we're free from attachment.

Now we see that having a Why that's anything other than for the love of it is a compromise. It's of the mind, not the heart.

Now we're free to desire what we'd love from being fulfilled.

Genuine Self-Empowerment!

Truly authentic.

Free from suffering and resistance.

Free from fear of non-fulfilment.

A return to the intelligence and the innocence of pure knowing.

Knowing we can fulfil ANY desire if we decide we'd love it and accept it.

Knowing we're free to choose.

It's so incredible, we may even look back and be grateful for the filters we were handed down and didn't even know we were using.

So simple.....

1. Know Yourself.

2. Choose, Decide, Enjoy... Stay True

3. BE LIVE.

The challenge of the game is the mind can't 'accept' the simplicity.......

Only we can!

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