How to Connect with Spirit: A Medium’s Guide to Feeling the Presence of Your Loved Ones

Hello, lovely people! Let’s get into something that comes up all the time: how to connect with your loved ones in spirit without needing a medium. If you’ve ever thought, I just wish I knew they could hear me when I talk to them, you’re not alone. I hear you (and so do they, by the way).

Connecting with spirit isn’t reserved for the chosen few—it’s something everyone can do. The real issue? We’ve been taught to doubt it. Our modern, logical, overthinking brains are constantly interfering. So today, let’s break it down in a way that makes sense, removes fear, and—most importantly—helps you feel that connection.

Grief, Loss, and the Ache of Missing Someone

Before we dive in, let’s address the elephant in the room: grief. Even as a medium, knowing my loved ones are around doesn’t take away the ache of not being able to hug them, laugh with them, or share everyday moments. So if you’re feeling frustrated that you can’t physically interact with them anymore, know that you’re not alone. That pain is real, and it’s valid.

However, what can help ease that ache is knowing they can hear you, are with you, and do send signs. The problem is, we expect those signs to look a certain way (cue the neon flashing billboard in the sky) and when they don’t, we think we’re not getting anything. But spirit is subtle. Really subtle.

Why Do Spirits Communicate Subtly?

Think about it—if your loved one in spirit suddenly appeared in full 3D, floating at the end of your bed, you’d probably die on the spot (ironically putting you in direct conversation with them!). Spirit works in energy, and because they vibrate at a much higher frequency than we do, they lower their energy and we raise ours to meet in the middle.

But we live in a world filled with distractions. The mind is always busy, the to-do list is never-ending, and in that mental chaos, we miss the whispers of spirit. So, let’s talk about how to tune in instead of assuming spirit isn’t there.

Step 1: Start Sitting with Spirit (Even If You Feel Like a Wally)

The number one way to build a connection? Sitting in the power—aka sitting quietly with the intention of being with spirit. No demands, no expectations, just time together.

• Set a routine: Pick a time of day, even if it’s just 10 minutes. (Morning coffee with spirit? Why not!)
• Sit in stillness: No distractions, no phone scrolling.
• Breathe and invite them in: “I welcome my loved ones in spirit. Come and be with me.” Then just be.

At first, you’ll feel nothing. Then you’ll wonder if you’re making it up. Then, one day, you’ll get a feeling, a presence, a warmth—and doubt it all over again. This is normal! Keep going. Just like working a muscle you’ve never used before, consistency is key.

Step 2: Signs from Spirit—Are You Missing Them?

Spirit is constantly sending us little nudges. The problem? We expect Hollywood-level grand gestures when spirit is actually more subtle and personal.

Look out for:

• Dreams: Vivid visits where they feel real.
• Songs on the radio: The one that reminds you of them, popping up when you least expect it.
• Smells: That familiar perfume, cigarette smoke, or home-cooked meal scent.
• Numbers: Repeated numbers like 111 or 444, their birthday, or anniversary.
• Animals and nature: Feathers, butterflies, birds acting a bit odd (hello, granddad the pigeon!).

If you ask for a sign, pay attention to how it arrives. It might not be obvious, but it will be them.

Step 3: Let Go of Expectations (And Stop Overthinking!)

One of the biggest roadblocks to connection? Overthinking.

• “Was that real?”
• “Did I just imagine that?”
• “That feather was already there, wasn’t it?”

We are so conditioned to doubt ourselves that we dismiss 90% of what spirit sends. Instead of analyzing, try trusting. If you felt it was them, it was them. Simple as that.

Step 4: Strengthen Your Connection Like You’d Train for a Marathon

If you’ve ever taken up running, you know it doesn’t happen overnight. The first few times, it’s agony. You hate it, you doubt yourself, and you want to quit.

Guess what? Mediumship development is exactly the same.

• The more you practice, the more natural it becomes.
• There will be days when you think you’re useless—keep going.
• Consistency builds strength (just like running that first 5K!).

Step 5: Stop Looking for Proof—Start Feeling the Love

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned as a medium? Spirit doesn’t care about proving themselves as much as they care about loving you. If you stop demanding proof and start allowing love, you’ll start feeling them more strongly.

Final Thoughts: You CAN Connect (Even If You Think You Can’t)

Your loved ones are closer than you think. They hear you, see you, and are still involved in your life. The problem isn’t that they’re not trying to reach you—it’s that you’re expecting them to do it a certain way.

So here’s your challenge: sit with spirit for just 10 minutes a day. No expectations, no pressure—just time. And when you get that first subtle nudge, instead of doubting it, just say: Hi, I feel you. Thank you.

That’s how it begins. That’s how you know.

Now, tell me in the comments: What’s a sign you’ve received from a loved one in spirit? Let’s chat below! ???

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