How to confidently fit in with the wealthy

Obviously, I don’t know the circles you travel in. How affluent your social group is (or isn’t).

I think the old adage of you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with is largely true.?Which means if that you aspire to become part of the affluent network, you likely don’t have a lot of personal role models you can draw from.

?? Which doesn’t mean you can’t learn.???

The wealthy have the ability to play both up ?? and down ?? the stream. They know how to act around the working classes as well as being comfortable with their economic peers.?

There is a certain style... an elegant way of interacting that the wealthy seem to instinctively know. It’s the reason why they seem so confident in social situations while the hands of those who are not a part of the tribe, begin to sweat.

This was a topic that came up at dinner the other night in a conversation I had with my dear friend Gary Russell. Gary is an attorney, a graduate of Brown and Penn Law School and a real estate developer in Atlanta.

Much of what we discussed can be found in a program I created on how to interact with the wealthy with confidence , but I thought I’d share his thoughts on something that’s often overlooked... tipping.

Gary said, “By and large the wealthy have a different attitude toward tipping than the working class - especially if they were service workers at some point in time. It really doesn’t have as much to do with how much money they have, as much as it does their mindset of generosity.”

“For example, when I was starting out, I went to a dinner with my boss who was one of those people who seemed to fit in wherever he went. He doesn’t like to valet park because he doesn’t like to wait for his car?when he leaves.”

“However, that doesn’t stop him from tipping the valet on his way out.”???

I thought that was an incredibly classy move and one I’ve adopted myself.

“The other interesting thing is that a simple act of generosity makes you feel more confident. I’m not sure why, but I’ve told this to many of my younger team members and they’ve all said that tipping a few dollars here and there makes them feel a part of the societal economic class to which they aspire.”

It’s a small thing but a powerful one.???

And it’s one of the differences between how the wealthy act compared with the middle classes.

Food for thought,? Mark

PS: Want more ways to increase your confidence around the wealthy? Check this out .