How To Communicate Like A Leader (2.6)
Fred Kofman
Executive Coach | President at Conscious Business Center International - CBC
You like being right, but that's not the way of the leader. A leader is not concerned with being right but with enhancing the team's intelligence."
A leader inspires others to accomplish a mission; a boss controls others to do as they are told. A leader seeks internal commitment; a boss demands external compliance.
As a boss-parent you want your children to read. You can "make" them read by taking away their devices until they do it.
As a leader-parent you want your children to want to read. With the boss-parent strategy you can make them read, but you can’t make them want to read.
To inspire others to want to do what the mission requires, you must convince them that doing so is in their best interest. Only when your kids believe that it is best for them to read they will want to do it—even when you’re not around to control them.
In the following video I discuss with Brian how a leader-manager can elicit internal commitment through conscious communication.
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Readers: What conclusions do you draw from this case?
Fred Kofman is Vice President at LinkedIn. This post is part 2.6. of LinkedIn's Conscious Business Program. You can find the introduction and structure of this program here. Follow Fred Kofman on LinkedIn here. To stay connected and get updates please visit Conscious Business Academy and join our Conscious Business Friends group.
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5 年I appreciated Fred (as "Fryan") was able to be vulnerable and open during the role play session. He did a great job expressing his uncertainty about San Diego in the original dialog, while also showing vulnerability (without reopening the conversation) in the do-over conversation.
Head of People and OD and Non Executive Director (Solace)
6 年It takes humility to simply share what's going on for us - and that's hard if we associate being a leader with being right. I took away the powerful words 'for me'? or 'to me' at the end of a judging sentence - it's a bad idea - to me. That we can choose a relationship or discussion where we can both be right is also really powerful. There is a simplicity in being just straightforward about what's going with us that is incredibly empowering for both people in the conversation.?
Impulsando la mejora de habilidades y comportamientos en directivos. Robusteciendo la visibilidad y el control empresarial.
6 年MMM I loved the session despite of in my mind this seems to be not pure coaching I see mentoring too............ which is very powerful because I think this also help to get results faster, anyway my biggest lesson here is the importance of having your mouth CLOSE, the fact is that this is one of the biggest challenge for any Coach, Leader and why not to say any human being as we are used to say what we think is right and the other should do and guess what? this is even more challenging when you have NO time and delivering results is your top priority!!!!!!!. In my experience before making any judgment keep your mouth close?(One?functional but not vey nice technique that could help is to have a pen on your mouth), that helps to manage better the instinct and ask questions to understand the other person point of view, that by far will help to understand other person opinion and give time to your brain to have another "view"?of the situation. Let remember Covey first try to understand?then been understood!
Technical Program Manager at Google
6 年I think Brian has a some of the same challenges I do, and this coaching session was very helpful to me. Avoiding judgement and honestly seeking more information when someone else's proposal doesn't make sense to me is a good way to operate.
Helping clients apply the wisdom, courage and intuitive guidance of the heart to their work
6 年Listening to Fred speak about Jeff Weiner's leadership at LinkedIn, I realize that I have never in my career experienced that quality of leadership that he describes. I'm not even sure I believed this was possible. You will not be surprised to know that I have spent most of my career as freelancer.