How can YOU move from resisting to existing and being present in every moment?

Hello there,

Do you know the difference between happiness and fulfillment?

Understanding the difference between actual happiness and real fulfillment can lead to a totally different life.

All our lives we chase material things that will give us a sense of existence, happiness, and fulfillment.

A lot of people have a false sense of reality, they feel like the reality they live in isn't the reality they should be living in. (Life isn’t currently fitting their narrative)

That tends to be the place where all the stress comes from.?

Reality and life as you know it, can change in a heartbeat, we have absolutely no control over reality at any point.

They can’t accept reality, that’s why they are resisting life, and ultimately that’s why they are unhappy.

Let me give you a personal example - One of my clients is a company that has grown more than double in the past 5 years. Their CEO is often speaking to the management team about context creation and how to create and determine circumstances.

Whatever happens, good or bad, we are responsible for choosing how we react to it. It’s our choice of how we want to live it.?

When something good happens, we often tend to take it for granted, instead of actually enjoying that moment and spreading high and positive energy around.?

When something bad happens, we tend to overthink the situation and make it worse instead of focusing on what can be done, and what can be learned and moving on fast.

To understand how you can move from a place of resistance to a place of existence, imagine life as a chessboard. It has black and white tiles. What are the changes to go through life - from one side to another without stepping on a black square??

Exactly, there are none!

When you understand that, you can change the context of every situation you’re in. Once you change how you perceive certain events in your life(good or bad), everything changes.

If we are linking our existence to only happiness and fulfillment, and the joy in our lives to certain circumstances then we will always be at the mercy of circumstance and condition.

Most people spend their entire lives chasing a sense of certainty, significance, variety, love, and connection(although most people want love and settle for connection).

True fulfillment comes from spiritual needs(Growth & Contribution).?

The reason so many people are unhappy with their lives is because they are too focused on themselves. Read that again!

If we can never control the circumstances that offer us a sense of significance, variety, certainty, or love & connection, then what about Growth & Contribution?

There is always a choice regardless of circumstances!

The problem is that most people are addicted to changing circumstances…

What if instead of trying to change material stuff in your life(i.e. people, cars, money, your job), if you changed the way you think? If you do that, everything changes.?

“When people change the way they look at life, the life they look at changes”

The key to decode existence and fulfillment is to not confuse content with context.

The stuff in our life = The content

How we hold it = Context

It’s easy to get complacent when life is going smoothly, but who you really are at your best is when you were tested at what you thought was your worst.

If you’re standing on a white square right now it’s because you stepped on a dark square to get here.

When you learn to accept that black squares and white squares are both equally important in your journey, then the dark square loses its negative power over you.

Negative emotions have power over us when we try to resist them.

Therefore, the purpose of life is to exist, not to resist.

Embrace both the positive and the negative(white/dark squares) in your journey and you will achieve your goal, of being fulfilled and happy in life.

When you can surf the waves of ups and downs, you reach a true state of being which allows you to look at life with inner fulfillment.

“Anything in life that you cannot say thank you for - you haven’t really looked at truthfully”

How do you know that you are on the journey toward existing??

• When you can forgive anyone regardless of what they do- mostly
• When you don’t get upset about anything and anyone- mostly
• When you can accept that black squares will be there in your journey
• When you accept reality as it is.

P.S. I want to thank my client L.P. who shared with me his business and life challenges with so much openness. His story inspired me to share this with you!