How can to make my life happier?
Shahinul Khalisdar
Tax Advisor | Business Advisor/ Taxation Expertise/ Enrolled Agent (EA)/Master of Science in Taxation (MST)/ Author
Someone asked me how to make my life happier.
Upon reflection, I may not be the most qualified individual to address this question; however, I would like to share my experiences. My childhood was filled with vibrant colors and joy until I hit preadolescence. That's when I faced my first real challenges. Watching my father grow frail and struggle with illness was a harsh awakening. It was a time of deep sorrow, especially after he passed away in Sylhet City.
But just when I thought hope was lost a remarkable "Jewish Girl" stepped into my life and reignited its colors. In a cozy Pakistan tea house, a Muslim guy encouraged me to join the Muslim Students Association and help reshape its vision. That pivotal moment opened the door to my passion for Muslim activism and further study. From that point on, I fully embraced my faith and became actively involved in initiatives that inspired me.
Whenever I felt disappointed or uncertain, my dad would advise, "Life is too short to dwell on worries." Go make Wudu? and pray two Rakat; you'll discover a sense of peace within those moments." His words were a gentle nudge towards finding solace in faith, a way to reconnect with myself and embrace a brighter perspective.
Allah says in the Quran, "O believers! Seek comfort in patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is truly with those who are patient." (2:153)
To create a happier life, I strongly recommend taking the following steps: practice gratitude, spend quality time with loved ones, engage in enjoyable activities, exercise regularly, prioritize good sleep, set achievable goals, celebrate your successes, give back to your community, and focus on personal growth by identifying your core values and strengths while steering clear of comparisons to others.
Key points to keep in mind:
Positive Mindset: Cultivate a grateful attitude by consistently reflecting on the things you appreciate. Always remember, no one is obligated to give you anything. What people do for you—whether out of kindness, social grace, or professional integrity—comes from their own choices and values, not because they owe you. It's important to recognize that these gestures are not entitlements; they're privileges rooted in human connection and respect.
Social Intelligence: Build and maintain strong relationships with your close relatives, regardless of whether they are good or bad. Just like fruit trees, which can produce both good and bad fruits, family is important. It's also essential to surround yourself with supportive and positive people.
Individual Responsibility: Prioritize good sleep, healthy eating, regular showers, brushing your teeth, wearing nice attire, and exercising regularly. If you are Muslim, pray five times a day on time and work to make an earning.
Meaningful Activities: Make the most of your time with your girlfriend or wife by indulging in playful activities and shared pursuits that spark genuine joy. Steer clear of unnecessary arguments and lighthearted banter that can lead to misunderstandings. Remember, relationships with the opposite gender should be about building companionship, not competition. Embrace the moments that bring you closer together!
Goal Setting: Set realistic goals for yourself and take a moment to celebrate every achievement along the way. If you're a Muslim, remember that your aspirations align with a greater purpose. As Allah said, “He is the One Who created death and life in order to test which of you is best in deeds. And He is the Almighty, All-Forgiving.” (67:2) Embrace this journey as a chance to grow and shine in your actions!
Giving Back: Make it a point to find opportunities to support your relatives, whether that means surprising them with a thoughtful gift or lending a helping hand. After all, they were there for you during your childhood, and it's a beautiful way to show your gratitude. Remember the wise words of Allah: "And ?remember? when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will certainly give you more. But if you are ungrateful, surely My punishment is severe.’” (14:7). Share your kindness humbly and don’t let it turn into bragging; the joy of giving is what truly matters.
Mindfulness: Choose your words wisely! It’s essential to think before you speak and to maintain control over your language—every word truly matters. Allah emphasizes this wisdom by saying, “Kind words and forgiveness are better than charity followed by injury. And Allah is Self-Sufficient, Most Forbearing.” (2:263).
Additionally, the Prophet Muhammad (?) reminds us of our responsibility toward one another: "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt their neighbor. They should treat their guests generously, and they should either speak positively or remain silent.” (Sahih al-Bukhari 6136). ?Let’s commit to speaking with kindness and understanding, creating a world where our words uplift rather than harm.
In summary, social status is not the key to your fulfillment. What truly matters is how you choose to represent yourself and the level of happiness and joy you experience in life. By implementing these strategies, you can enhance your overall happiness and well-being.
This video is very similar to my first experience with a girl. It's almost close to the truth.