How can they be like that?!
Very recent past, I got a question through Quora which is very much aligned to social competition & related stress which can lead anyone to inferiority complex and mood disorder. Just sharing the Q/A as it is.
A good query. Very often we fall in this trap of Inferiority Complex. Think deeply, you not only think but at the same time you start comparing your status. You don't have definite clues, still you try to do this and in process you start imposing some imaginary doubts on your inbuilt qualities. So unfairly you're behaving with self !
Now, question is how can you get rid of this black and white calculations.
At first, let's open the process of thinking. It's pure scientific exercise. Our thinking has some definite pattern that controls our behavior. What's that pattern? We all have some particular focus on various subjects, objects, feels, words, attitudes, expressions. When we start thinking, we try to connect easiest available focused dots. As the dots get connected in our subconscious mind, it forms a pattern with which we're comfortable. Then we start thinking consciously according to that pattern. Different focus, different pattern , different thoughts.
Coming to your mindset. You always try to focus on other's accomplishments. Did you ever analyze their journey? To attain that pinnacle, how much pain the man took! How stormy his road was! How much blood and sweat he spent to complete the journey! How many sleepless nights he passed to get even smallest success!
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All you need is to shift your mindset. You've to focus on your real self. Analyze how you had been raised from infancy to this adulthood. What kind of skills are installed in your thought process. You can't crown a clown to make a king. Royal qualities needed there. You can follow some tricks and tips which will help you to steer your mindset in different direction. Just check the procedure
Well, you're mostly on track as the doubt hits your logical reasoning.
You've to change your thought process first. If you have tendency to think critically, let me tell you, world is not so critical to live a peaceful life. It's we who make things worse. Whenever you're facing a hurdle, don't treat it as obstacle. Rather take it as a challenge. Analyze the problem from inner perspective. Identify your faults first. What's going wrong in your trial is the bottom line redressal area to win the situation.
Say, you're trying to cool down tension with your partner. Before uttering any word, think about your contribution towards that misunderstanding. Don't prioritize ego. Rather control your expressions, rethink and rewrite your emotional scripts and make it sure that it can't manifest provocation. Take your time, go to your partner, and say sorry without any excuses. Trust me, things will come down within few minutes. Better to avoid small issues to win a big situation.
Another important change in thought process you need to have is predefined decisions. Change is the only constant of life. Things keep changing randomly. So as perspectives. So, how you experienced any instance in earlier time, may not incur same effect next time. So, you have to identify ground reality of every little experiences.
Another correction needed in your vision. How you're seeing things is an important quality to judge situations. If you've to analyze any incident, think in multidimensional way. Take note of all inputs and then try to judge or nomenclate any situation, person or incident. It's confirmed that you can't put some flowers in asshole and call it a vase. So, observation with justification represents matured mindset.
If you can redress thought process, rest is quite easy. Your vision, arguments and any sort of eye opening intellect will change to positivity at ease.