How to Calm Your Anger and Stop Being an Emotional Volcano

Leaders and entrepreneurs are often faced with difficult issues and challenging situations that must be effectively navigated on any given day. Such instances may occur simultaneously, pile up on you, and lead to feeling angry. Because anger is a normal human emotion, it is unrealistic to think that you can just avoid or ignore feelings of anger.

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Feeling angry isn’t the problem. What matters most is the frequency and intensity of anger and how you consciously choose to deal with your heavy emotions.

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It’s natural to have anger arise or get your knickers in a twist when you feel that you’ve been wronged, disappointed, disrespected, or even rejected and then consciously blow off some steam in a constructive and healthy way.

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However, if you find yourself experiencing anger that is constantly looming, excessive, explosive, or uncontrollable then your health, emotional well-being, relationships, business, career, and overall quality of life will likely suffer in unfortunate and unnecessary ways.?

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The process I find most beneficial to improve your relationship with anger is to deepen your understanding of this heavy emotion, identify the root cause your anger, tap into proven techniques for navigating your emotions in a healthier manner, and seek out specialized support to finally free yourself from your unhealthy pattern of anger.

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Common Situations That May Activate Anger

There are a variety of situations that when experienced may result in anger being activated within you. Common situations that I often see with clients include but are not limited to:

• Perceiving or experiencing an actual threat of safety for yourself or another person.
• Feeling or believing that you are being disrespected, rejected or unloved.
• Experiencing or witnessing injustice over something you determine to be wrong or unfair.
• Facing hardships or ongoing struggles around your basic needs being met.
• Encountering difficult obstacles that prevent you from achieving your goals.

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Taking time to self-reflect on current situations and past experiences will provide you with beneficial clues regarding your unhealthy pattern with anger.

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The Consequences of Being Ruled by Anger

When faced with challenging, overwhelming or toxic situations, it is common to feel overwhelmed, powerless, or even trapped. Your resulting anger may be expressed externally, directed internally, or both. These anger pathways are destructive, poisonous to your well-being, and create unnecessary and/or potentially irreparable damage including:

• Engaging in unhealthy coping mechanisms to self-soothe, dull the anger, or to distract from anger-inducing situations. This includes over-eating and abusing alcohol or drugs.
• Experiencing a cumulative negative toll on your emotional well-being and physical body including health problems like cardiovascular issues and diabetes.
• Having your relationships, business and career suffer or potentially be destroyed by uncontrollable, scary or explosive behavior.
• Facing additional serious consequences as a result of your actions while angered or enraged.

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Proven Practices to Calm Anger and Regulate Your Emotions

In an effort to break self-sabotaging anger patterns, prevent emotional volcanoes from erupting, and ensure that you regulate your emotions in a healthy manner here are proven practices I recommend to clients that you can incorporate into your life starting today:

• Pause and step away from the situation when you feel anger starting to activate. Politely excuse yourself to regain your composure. Come back to related conversations when you are calmer and more clear-headed.
• Engage in deep breathing to calm your nervous system. We all breathe so you might as well use your breath to your advantage. A few minutes of intentional deep breathing does a world of good to regulate your emotions.
• Move your body to dissipate the energy of anger and return your emotional thermostat to more neutral levels. Exercise is your friend. Go for a walk, hike, dance, workout, etc.
• Practice yoga, meditation, or other mindfulness activities that are proven beneficial to the well-being of your mind, body and soul. By intentionally connecting to the calmness and serenity associated with these kind of practices, you nurture and are able to grow peace from within.
• Consistently care for your physical body on a daily basis by ensuring adequate sleep, nutrition and hydration. A neglected body is prone to emotional dysregulation.
• Explore and label what you are really feeling. Oftentimes, underneath what you routinely refer to as anger is unresolved resentment, sadness, grief, or similar emotional pain.
• Remember that you are not your angry emotions. Anger is merely a dashboard light signaling to you that something internally requires your attention so that it can be resolved. Resolution allows you to move forward productively.
• Minimize time spent in situations and/or with people where it’s been common for your anger to become activated. Doing so is important, particularly in the early stages of reprogramming your subconscious mind to more effectively navigate heavy emotions.

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Above All, Know This

Alongside your personal desire, the most important factor in freeing yourself from a self-sabotaging pattern of anger is to uncover the true source of your anger. Until you do so, you will continue projecting heavy and volatile emotions onto any situation that feels similar to the original cause of your anger.

The only way to truly heal an anger pattern is to identify and resolve the underlying root cause.

Trying on your own to uncover the root cause of your anger may prove challenging when you are trapped inside a repeating pattern. This is where my specialized expertise is available to support you. I regularly facilitate clients in effectively regulating their emotions and successfully transforming their lives in a positive and lasting way.

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Bringing It All Together

As an effective leader, it’s crucial to display high EQ, set a good example as well as refrain from angry outbursts or emotional temper tantrums that send those around you ducking for cover.?

By becoming more self-aware, you provide yourself with the opportunity to consciously respond to challenging situations in a healthy and empowered manner versus subconsciously reacting in accordance with your old angry ways.

With intention, regular practice and support, you are able to reprogram your subconscious mind and free yourself from an unhealthy relationship with anger. In doing so, you will improve your well-being, relationships and quality of life for the better.?

Wishing you infinite abundance and inner peace,?

Andrea Choate - Founder, Soul Mechanics Healing

? I support CEO’s, executives, entrepreneurs, and success-minded individuals to thrive in business, relationships and life via my cutting-edge quantum mindset coaching services. This is unique and highly effective inner work with a specialized focus on upgrading your subconscious mind, re-patterning behavior, regulating emotions, and energetically aligning with your goals and desired life outcomes. To access my next available 1:1 coaching opportunity, contact: [email protected] .

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