How busy are you?

We are living in a world which has changed so much. Today, we face significant pressure in our life. We are no more living the days when we had time for so many beautiful things to do. Life was so peaceful, calm, and pleasant, as we took time to do every little thing we wanted. We were, not only pleasing ourselves, but also making others happy by giving them some of our time.

Nowadays, speak to anyone and the moment you ask them “how are you”, you will hear “am fine, but very busy, there are so many things to do and am stressed”.

“Busy” and “Stress” have become two common words that are used so often to mean so many things.

People are busy with work, house stuff, daily chores, and routine tasks. You meet them anywhere, at a reception, in a wedding, at work, in birthday party, and even during prayer time, many will tell you they are busy.

During weekends, we try to catch up the precious time, by doing outstanding house and office tasks. Many of us keep a list whether on the refrigerator, or in your diary, in smartphone, reminders of so many things to catch up

It has become so natural to say “am busy”

Let's now look at the other side of the coin, I mean "the reverse meaning of being busy".         

What we note is that the more you say you are busy, the more people may start interpreting it differently. In fact, saying too much that you are busy may have the following connotations.

People may start thinking that it is your way of showing how important you are. ?

People may start feeling that you want to show that you hold more responsibilities than them, you have more important tasks than them, and in simple terms you are superior.

May be it’s true that you are really busy. But saying it too much makes it looks like you are boasting yourself. You start creating the impression of being arrogant though you may not be one.

Moreover, the more you say you are busy, you are also passing the message that everyone else is less important. You create the impression of being an attention seeker.

When people tell you "how are you" and you reply "I'm busy," you might be telling them that you are avoiding them and you don't want to talk to them. You may make others feel bad that you never have time for them.

Saying that you are busy may also show that you are inefficient and don’t know how to manage your work and time.

At time, you may not realize that you are closing your own doors of opportunities, by saying you are busy, since people will not be able to rely on you, as you don't have time.

So, for how long will you keep on saying that you are busy?        

Being busy is part of normal life. Our normal life, our normal routine is now being busy. So stop saying that you are busy and say something positive, like “yes am fine”.

Even if someone asks you “Hey, you....busy as usual?”

Reply by saying “no am fine and working great, as usual”.

Take time to ask these people questions. Instead of putting attention onto you, put the attention onto them, show that you care, and take time to ask question about them.

Or even better, ask them about their work, their life and their busy schedule, do as if you are having a normal life and normal time and you understand that they are busy.

In doing so, these people will start questioning how can such a busy person like him, not telling me he is busy. He must be cool while managing all these things and still saying all is normal and fine. In fact, this is how they genuinely getting impressed by you. They start appreciating you and finding you a real professional

You must have noticed that most successful people and great CEOs, never complain, never talk of their busy schedule, since in fact, it is just normal for them.

So, make this busy life a normal life, and avoid responding that you are busy.

Instead, be cool, respond positively, and show attention onto the other person instead of focusing on you.