How To Build Your Self Worth?
If you are reading this post for the first time I want you to listen real carefully to what I'm about to say. One of the most important things you need to know and always remember is that you were all born knowing your self-worth, but as life moves on, the comments, expectations, and attitudes of other people can wear down this natural sense of self-worth. Don't you find it very interesting and even ironic that the word SELF is in front of the word WORTH? How can anyone begin building the bricks and foundation of SELF-WORTH if they haven't come into the true realization of one's own value or worth as a person? Yes you can let other people value your self-worth but remember you will always get short change in the end never receiving you true value. Your self-worth can only come from YOU but remember you were ALL born knowing your self-worth. If you do not know have a clue where to begin then let me provide you with 5 simple steps that will help you in building and maintaining your self-worth.
- Understand the power of your attitude toward yourself: How you perceive yourself, how you talk about yourself, and how you represent yourself eventually becomes the reality for you. And if it happens that you're putting yourself down, belittling your worth, and making light of your talents in the face of others, then you will come across as self-effacing, low in self-esteem, and almost a part of the wallpaper. This isn't humility -- its self-denial and an attempt to lessen your presence.
- Learn to overcome a fear of self-love: Downplaying or putting one's needs and wants beneath those of others out of a FEAR of being perceived as selfish or inward -looking.
Healthy self-love is about being your own best friend. Self-love is expressed not through preening oneself all day and constantly announcing how great you are, rather self-love is about treating yourself with the same care, tolerance, generosity, and compassion as you would treat a special friend.
- Avoid overlaying how you think other people see you. How does it help you to cater your personality to their idea of you? Only you can give yourself the esteem boost you need.
- Self-love falters when we fall into the realm of addiction. Alcoholism, drug addiction, Internet addiction, and all similar addictions are a sign that you're hurting deeply but also that you don't want to face up to the opportunities presented by working through your pain.
- 3. Trust your own feelings: Self-worth requires that you learn to listen to and rely upon your own feelings and not automatically respond to the feelings of other people. Once those around you establish that you'll respond to what they want, they'll lack any incentive to not make use of your responsiveness, and that sets a bind for you that can be hard to break (but break it you must). When you trust your own feelings, you will realize that when demands are placed upon you, you don't feel great and you will want to respond with what works better for you, or for both of you, rather than what works better for everyone else except you.
- 4. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: Evaluating yourself base on what other people think and feel about you is definitely a NO! Once you try to live up to an image of what you think others want to you to be, you lose your self-worth. Instead, you are following a compass set by other people's expectations, whether or not those expectations are clearly defined or implied. Unfortunately, many people live this way, making such choices as what to study, what career to choose, where to live, and how many children to have -- all based on expectations from parents, spouses, friends, and the media. Comparing yourself to others will always end up in heartache. Remember you were wonderfully and beautifully made with all the wonderful ingredients and talents just TAP IN!
- 5. Analyze yourself: Many of us live in a culture that is very fond of going to see someone else to analyze us. Unless you've got a serious disorder, garden-variety uncertainty and lack of purpose does not need analysis by someone else. It needs self-analysis so that you can clearly recognize where you're underestimating yourself and short-changing yourself.