How to build your Self Confidence

Lack of confidence is a major obstacle for many of us who are striving hard to achieve our goals in life.

Learn how develop confidence with the following advices. This will surely help you in your study, at work, and in your personal life.

Remember, growing your self-confidence is a continuous process that never stops, and confident people never stop learning to become even more confident.

1.????Listen more and speak less.

When people who lack confidence, interact with others, they tend to use this opportunity to prove themselves to others. It is their lack of confidence that makes them behave like this. They tend to speak more and listen less.

Confident people focus on the interaction itself and on the other person, which is a far more enjoyable and productive approach to people.?

2.????Speak with assertiveness.

People who lack confidence often use the words “I guess”, “Ummm”, “I think”, “I’m not sure”.

Confident people speak with assertiveness so that they build credibility to others who are listening to them.

3.????Do not depend on others for your own “good feeling”

People who lack confidence await praise, applaud and recognition from others to feel good and be happy about what they are doing. Sadly, their happiness about their work depends on how others feel about them.

Confident people feel good in what they are doing, and their happiness comes from within themselves. They derive pleasure of their achievements, no matter what others think, no matter what anyone says, they are their only judge.

4.????Do not judge others.

People, who lack confidence, most of the time, are judging others.

Confident people do not pass judgment on others because they do not have this obsession to pin someone down for them to go up and feel good and happy. Their happiness do not depend on anything, on anyone.?They do not compare them to others. They trust themselves and don’t care about others as rivals.

5.????Do not be desperate for attention.

People who lack confidence need attention of people to gain their confidence. It is such attention that grows their esteem and confidence.

If you want to be confident, you have be yourself rather than trying to prove that you are important. Even when you are receiving attention for an accomplishment, try to shift the focus to other people who have worked hard to help you get there. Such people do not crave approval or praise.

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6.????Let not “Fear” hold you back.

People who lack confidence are afraid to make mistake since they are afraid to be judged. They avoid trying new things, finding innovative ways, coming up with new ideas, and exploring new adventures.

Confident people are not afraid even when they are told that they are wrong. They will put their opinions to you and learn from their mistakes. They do not have ego that prevents them from listening what has gone wrong. They take things positively. They know what they are capable of and do not take “being wrong” as a personal attack. They will even their share their knowledge, their successes, and their failures to others.

7.????Learn how to say “No”.

When you lack confidence, deep inside you want to say “no” but can’t. It eats you inside and creates frustration but still you can’t say “no”. Such people cause their own unhappiness and stress.

Be confident and say “no” diplomatically and with all kindness. This is healthier for the one receiving it and for yourself. Confident people avoid phrases such as “I don’t think I can” or “I’m not sure.”

Be straightforward and say “no” with confidence while being gentle, kind and tactful. People appreciate those who are frank and honest and do no fool them by turning round and round, only not to say “no”.

8.????Seek help without hesitation.

People who lack confidence will prefer remain in their difficulties and uncertainty only because of an ego problem. They do not like to bow in front of others to show they know less, they are weak, and they cannot solve a problem.

Confident people trust and believe in themselves. They are not afraid to ask for help when needed. This is because they admit their weaknesses and want to learn. They do not have any ego to express it to others only for the sake of learning. They do not consider that showing one weakness means they are weak or less knowledgeable. They know their strengths and weaknesses. They believe in self- improvement.

9.????Keep on challenging yourself.

People who lack confidence will avoid new things and they afraid to be judged in front of others.

Confident people like to challenge and compete with themselves. They do not do it to prove to others, but they have to prove to themselves that each day they are better than yesterday. They like to take new things, new initiatives, learn new ideas, and explore new

10.?Recognize other people.

If you lack confidence, you feel insecure, you doubt yourself. Ironically, such people often artificially try to steal the show, when they are in a crowd. They have to do it to gain their security feeling. Its again another way of proving something to themselves and to others.

Confident people, on the other hand, do not bother about this since they draw their worth within themselves. They will not focus on themselves; instead they focus outward by looking at the good things other people bring. They praise people for their contributions and participation.?