HOW TO BOUNCE BACK FROM A SETBACK?

Setbacks are a natural part of life, and bouncing back from them is a skill that can be learned and strengthened. Resilience is the inner quality that helps people bounce back from adversity instead of becoming overwhelmed or turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms. Here are some steps you can take to get back on your feet.

Anticipate Failure:

If there is one thing every adult knows is that failure is more common than success. So, it isn’t personal – though we still manage to take it that way. The first step is to stop taking, failure personally.

Accept Responsibility:

Blaming other people for our failures is the sure-fire way to fail again and again.

When the fall comes, we should be willing to admit ways we didn’t get it right.

Acknowledge Your Emotions:

It's okay to feel disappointed, frustrated, or even angry after a setback. Suppressing your emotions won't make them go away. Allow yourself to feel them, but don't dwell on them.

Fall-back to People Who Encourage You:

Family, friends, and community are important. Even if you are succeeding, you need people to celebrate with, and who can help you relax from all the stress that comes with trying so hard. But it is very crucial that they are there in case you ever face a setback. Consider them a safety net, or springboard from which you can bounce back.

Maintain Perspective:?

Try to see the setback in the larger context of your life. Is it a temporary hurdle or a permanent roadblock?? Often, setbacks feel much bigger in the moment than they actually are.

Be Kind to Yourself:

Don't beat yourself up.? Talk to yourself like you would to a friend who is going through a tough time.

??Adopt a Positive Mindset:

?A positive mindset increases the probability of achieving the desired result. Self-belief is the essence of getting back up. "Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future," John F. Kennedy stated.

Learn From Your Mistakes:

You must learn from your failure. Take your time to study the failure and write down what caused the setback. Take note of what worked and what didn’t work. Be scrupulous and thorough. Reflect on what happened. What could you have done differently? What did you learn?? Use this knowledge to improve your approach next time.

Focus on What You Can Control:

Not everything in life is within your control. Focus on the things you can influence, such as your attitude, effort, and actions.

Plan and decide:

Don't stay stuck.? Set some small, achievable goals to get yourself back on track. Having a plan can help you feel more empowered.

Ask Yourself, “What Next?”

Once you’re done learning, start looking for fresh opportunities if you don’t have the privilege of trying again.

Ask yourself:

Where do I go from here?

What other opportunities lie in wait for me?

What can I do now?

It may not be immediately obvious to you, but the answer will come – one way or the other...be on the lookout.

Focus on the Future:

Once you’ve figured out “what next?” to do with your life, it is time to focus on it and blind yourself from distractions, including your current situation.

The future depends on what you do today:

Focus on what you can do now. Do everything within your power (in the present) to the best of your ability. This can be hard, long, and sometimes discouraging, but you must stick to it. Improve your chances of success. You must stay hungry and agile.

Reflect, Relearn, and Reset:

It’s a crucial step toward growth and recovery. Resetting goals is a powerful way to refocus energy and motivation. The secret to change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.

Seek Support:?

Don't be afraid to reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for support. Talking to someone you trust can help you process your emotions and develop a plan to move forward.

Paulo Coelho once said,

An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means that it's going to launch you into something great. So just focus and keep aiming.

He was right...

Sometimes the obstacles and setbacks in our lives are actually the indication that something big is coming.

Be Optimistic and Patient:

There is no ignoring the role of chance and time when it comes to success.

Sometimes, good things just take their sweet time, and there is nothing you can do about it. You must learn to wait for your own time to shine.

Success is not final; failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

Those are the wise words of Winston Churchill, and they were never truer in life. Both success and failure will come, but you must learn to leverage on both to better your life. Be like the bow and arrow and let the setbacks propel you forward!

Remember: setbacks are an opportunity to learn and grow. By following these steps, you can bounce back from any challenge and come out stronger on the other side.

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