How to Bounce Back After a Loss

The sting of a loss never sits within us with ease.? Mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically, setbacks--particularly when we worked so hard to succeed--always seem to be coupled with an element of surprise and incredible dejection.

Whether your team lost the championship game, a relationship ended, you didn’t get drafted or the contract you wanted, your career ended, or another major loss, it might leave you asking “What now?” ?

What can you do when you gave it all you had, and it didn’t work out the way you envisioned??

What if you aren’t quite prepared to move on??

Reality is reality regardless of whether you agree with it or not. That’s a painful truth but one that is true for every human being. Still, we can choose elements of grit and grace to see us through.?

8 Truths After a Loss?

Perspective is a power we all possess. It is a difference-maker in the ongoing battle between the inner critic and the inner coach. Here are some perspective shifts for you to consider:?

1. You cannot change the past.?
2. You cannot overthink your way to a new result.?
3. You cannot stress your way into a new solution.?
4. Hardships are unavoidable.?
5. Losses are inevitable, but so are wins.?
6. Self-compassion is the quickest way to move from beating yourself up into the courage to keep going.?
7. Emotions are temporary.
8. Challenges create the greatest opportunities.?

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How to Trust in the Process After a Major Loss

In the face of adversity, when grieving sets in, trust is perhaps the last thing on our minds.?

While we may believe everything happens for a reason, we still want to know “why.” That’s human nature.?

In good times and bad, the future is unknown. It is impossible to know what lies ahead.?

What is known is that you have survived the biggest obstacles to date in your life, and you will do the same now. That doesn’t mean the process is comfortable.?

You will torture yourself trying to make things make sense sometimes. The “what ifs” and “whys” can be painstakingly relentless.?

You can instead focus on three things:

1. What can I learn from this?
2. How can I do better?
3. What’s my next best step?

?All you have now is the actions and mindset you choose in this moment.?

I am not telling you to “Walk it off” as I was so often told as a kid.?

What I’m saying is process what you need to process, and then allow yourself to move on in the face of all the unknowns.?

Accept that being human means having tough emotions and not having all the answers all of the time. It means losing, but also winning.

Grieve what you need to grieve.

Take one step forward, one at a time.?

If you only take one step today, that’s still progress.?

Action builds confidence, which aids in emotional healing.??

Check out this video I shared with another tip on how to use a curiosity mindset to navigate challenging times.?

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Affirmations For The Week

• I accept what I cannot change and find the courage to change the things I can. ??
• I’m discovering new strengths within myself.
• When I'm afraid or feeling defeated, I will rely on my Higher Power for strength and guidance.
• I have the power to overcome obstacles.
• I can do hard things.
• After a difficult period, I always emerge stronger.?