How To Better Communicate With Someone Who Has Dementia

I'm thrilled to talk to you about an essential and often overlooked topic: communicating better with someone with dementia.

A Personal Story

I'd like to begin with a personal anecdote about my mother and sister. There were moments when my sister would feel upset and frustrated with our mother, thinking she was deliberately trying to annoy her.

The truth, however, was different.

My mother, dealing with dementia, wasn't attempting to be combative or mean. It was simply a challenging situation that she could not control. It took time for my sister to recognize this, and understand that this was not a deliberate act of aggression from our mother.

Tips for Communicating with Someone with Dementia

I believe this story illustrates why it's crucial to understand the best ways to communicate with someone with dementia. Here are some practical tips that you can start using today:

1. Speak Clearly and Slowly: Use clear language and take your time to articulate each word.
2. Make Eye Contact: While listening to their questions, maintain eye contact to show engagement.
3. Give Time to Respond: Understand that it may take some time for them to process your words and respond.
4. Encourage Participation: Engage them in conversations with others to make them feel included.
5. Let Them Speak: Even if the answers aren't entirely accurate, allowing them to speak fosters a sense of involvement.
6. Avoid Patronizing or Ridiculing: Treat them with the dignity and respect they deserve.
7. Repeat Back What They Said: Repeating their words ensures that you've understood them correctly.
8. Provide Simple Choices: Don't overwhelm them with too many options.
9. Use Other Ways to Communicate: If they seem confused, rephrase your question and patiently wait for their response.

A Memorable Experience

I recall taking a dementia client to a doctor who, instead of speaking to me, directed his questions to her. Although I later clarified the answers, I appreciated his approach. It showed respect for her autonomy.

Conclusion

Dealing with dementia is complex, but by implementing these tips, you can make communication more accessible and compassionate.

For those interested in working with us or learning more about our services, please do not hesitate to connect with me.

Remember, kindness, patience, and understanding are key. Let's treat our loved ones with the dignity they deserve and provide the support they need.