How to Become Your Best Self in 2025

Welcome to my LinkedIn Newsletter! Unveiling the Diamonds Within is a space for self-discovery, healing, and empowerment—where forgiveness is more than just a concept but a tool for self-transformation. Through thought-provoking insights, personal stories, and practical strategies, this newsletter explores how self-forgiveness, healing, and self-love lead to growth, meaningful connections, and personal growth.

My Story

My name is Ruth Kala Kamara. You can call me RKK. And I am a recovering people-pleaser. Here’s my story.

I was born in Sierra Leone, where my ex-husband and I were childhood friends. Life eventually took us to the UK, where we reconnected as young immigrants. Despite struggling to build a life in a foreign land, we married and had three beautiful children.

In the beginning, he was kind, loving, and attentive. But as the years passed, I found myself carrying the weight of our family—financially, emotionally, and mentally. His lack of motivation left me as the primary breadwinner, and while he made me feel cherished at times, he also betrayed my trust. Infidelity, emotional and financial abuse, and neglect slowly chipped away at the love we had built.

Looking back, I see how my childhood wounds set the stage for my struggles as an adult. As a kid, I looked up to my parents, uncles, and aunts. But during puberty, the same relatives I admired ridiculed my body. This experience planted seeds of shame that grew into self-doubt. Their words shaped how I saw myself, leading me to destructive habits like breast ironing and a lifelong cycle of negative self-talk. I became a chronic people-pleaser, believing that if I could just make others happy, I would be worthy of love.

This pattern followed me into my marriage. I tolerated things I shouldn’t have, prioritizing his needs over my own, believing that enduring it all was the price of love. But eventually, it all crumbled. Our marriage ended in divorce in 2010, marking one of the darkest periods of my life.

Everything fell apart—my health, my friendships, my sense of self. I had hit rock bottom. But strangely, in that pit of despair, I found clarity. It was my turning point.

For the first time, I chose me. I started prioritizing my well-being and self-worth. As I reflected, I realized my role—not in causing the pain, but in allowing it to go unchecked for so long. The hardest part wasn’t forgiving him; it was forgiving myself.

That journey of self-forgiveness wasn’t easy. It was gradual, painful, and required deep soul-searching. But through it, I discovered something powerful—myself. The strength, the resilience, the woman I was always meant to be.

That journey inspired me to write a book on self-forgiveness because I realized that without it, true healing is impossible.

My biggest lesson? Forgiveness, both of myself and others, was the key to breaking free. It was the door to my greatness, and it’s the same for anyone ready to step into their true power.

Today, I am a leader with over 25 years of experience as a consultant in the administration of private and public revenues within the United Kingdom’s civil service. During this time, I served in various local governments across England, contributing to transformative service improvement initiatives.

Notably, I was part of a team that elevated one of London’s lowest-performing boroughs, earning an award for Best-Improved Service Department in the local authority sector. Our achievements were nationally recognized, and I represented the borough at the Institute of Revenue, Rating, and Valuation (IRRV) Best Performance Awards.

I hold an MBA degree and bring a wealth of expertise in project management, marketing, branding, and service improvement modeling. I am also a member of the Chartered Management Institute (CMI).

For me to step into my greatness, I had to overcome the following:

• Self-sabotage
• Destructive habits
• Negative self-talk
• Chronic people-pleasing
• Low self-esteem?
• Self-doubt and impostor syndrome
• Guilt and shame

It was not a day’s job. But I did it with the help of God. I am in a better place today, becoming the best version of myself every day. The number one secret to overcoming all of these problems is self-forgiveness. Until you forgive yourself, you will never love yourself enough to commit to growth and greatness.

This is what this newsletter is about. Think of it as an instruction manual on becoming the best version of yourself — your diamond self — by unlocking your inner permission to release your greatness through self-forgiveness, healing, and self-love.

In this newsletter, we will cover some amazing topics.

Topics I Care About

?? Forgiveness and Self-Forgiveness

?? Healing and Self-Growth

?? Well-being Connections

?? Coaching and Personal Development

?? Leadership and Entrepreneurship

?? Writing and Public Speaking

?? Women Empowerment

As a transformational coach and life guide, my message is about helping people discover and unveil the diamonds within them. There are several important touchpoints to this message. Below are some of them.

What I Believe

?? Forgiveness – More than letting go, forgiveness is self-liberation. It’s a gateway to self-love, self-worth, and stronger relationships.

?? Healing – True healing starts with self-forgiveness. It’s the foundation for inner peace, emotional well-being, and personal growth.

?? Relationships – We are wired for connection, but unforgiveness erodes trust. Practicing true forgiveness strengthens and restores meaningful bonds.

?? Community – A thriving community starts with understanding and grace. I create safe spaces for open conversations on the difficult yet transformative journey of forgiveness and all-around personal growth.

?? Trauma – Forgiveness helps us reclaim power from past pain. It fosters resilience, healing, and deeper empathy.

?? Well-being – Forgiveness is essential for both emotional and relational well-being. I help people cultivate vulnerability, empathy, and growth to build a more fulfilling life.

I am so excited about this journey. Are you??

Join me on this journey as we embrace forgiveness as a tool for transformation and freedom. Let’s heal, grow, and thrive—together! ?

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