How to become a confident public speaker, FAST

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I?wasted years of my life focusing on wrong things to become a better speaker.

To save you hours of time and effort, we’re gonna focus on the one single skill that has ACTUALLY helped me become a confident public speaker.

Let’s go!

The 1 thing that matters

If you're reading this, chances are you've explored ways to up your public speaking game – maybe you've watched some YouTube videos or picked up a book on the topic.

We've all heard the usual tips like, "Minimize filler words," "Pause more," or "Use gestures to emphasize."

For me, these tips are just the tip of the iceberg (of public speaking mastery).

They're helpful for experienced speakers, but if you're just starting out, they’re not. When you’re starting off, there is only one thing you need to focus on:

Giving less f*cks!

By caring less about what others think, you'll naturally find your groove on stage. The rest of those public speaking skills will flow effortlessly once you shift your focus away from external opinions.

But hang on, how do you actually give fewer f*cks?

The secret of not giving a f*ck

Those who watched my?TEDx talk, know that my favorite technique is called?Constructive Embarrassment.

It’s a practice where you put yourself in an embarrassing situation — on purpose.

You might high-five a stranger, bust a dance move in public, or even lie down on a coffee shop floor (crazy, right?).

I know, you're probably wondering “why on earth would I willingly sign up for that kind of embarrassment?”

Here's the scoop: When you conquer those uncomfortable feelings in deliberately awkward moments, you're building a superpower. You'll face those nerves and judgment head-on, and when they try to sneak into your presentations or speeches, you'll be more equipped to brush them off. Think about it – by caring a bit less, you'll be more present and actually enjoy the experience.

By putting yourself in an embarrassing for an extended period (e.g. 1 challenge every day for 30 days), you'll feel very comfortable on any stage.

Here are a few challenges to get you started:

1. Ask a stranger for a hug
2. Give a stranger a high-five
3. Ask a stranger for directions, but then go the opposite way?
4. Pretend to be a waiter in a restaurant — take food orders from strangers
5. Pretend to be a mannequin in a clothing store
6. Be a greeter in front of a fast-food chain (e.g., “What’s up? Welcome to McDonald’s”)
7. Lie down on the floor of a coffee shop
8. Do a yoga session in the supermarket
9. Announce the weather in the subway
10. Draw a portrait of a stranger and then show it to him or her

At first, I’d recommend picking something challenging, but still manageable. Choose something that makes your heart race — but that doesn’t give you a full heart attack.

Give it a try the next time you’re out! What’s the worst thing that could happen? People will think you’re weird. So what?! What’s the best outcome? You’ll feel more confident speaking in public.

Hungry to learn more about it (& wanna see doing incredibly awkward things)?

Check out my new YouTube video on?How to Become a Confident Public Speaker, FAST.

Much love!

Philipp

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