How To Become A Business Magnet.

Your presence eases my pain.? No truer definition of a friend ever leaped off lips.? More please.? We all need more of that.? People in our lives that make a difference, especially when the going gets tough.

In a complex and challenging business deal recently, I was reminded of the benefits of running from bad deals with deceitful people.? Even when the margin is high but the people quality is low, there’s future pain coming long after the bank deposit. ?

Allowing your emotional capital to be exhausted by small people mercilessly straining to blow out your candle trying to make theirs burn brighter is a wicked, bad trade.?

So we unwound that deal and moved on to greener pastures. Another beautiful piece of stained glass added to the sanctuary of wisdom, casting more brilliant light on a better life. Let the less experienced and unwise have those deals.?

What if there was a way to measure in advance those whose presence eases pain?? Such a tool pinpointing a position on the grief-to-reward spectrum would be invaluable.

Maybe the best way to find those people is to be one.? Being one actively attracts the same in others, making bad options more obvious.?

Your presence eases my pain. In times of distress, having someone who can provide comfort and understanding makes a difference. Whether you're supporting a friend, family member, or partner, here are five actionable steps to ensure your presence is truly soothing and helpful:

1. Active Listening

• Description: Show that you genuinely care by listening attentively. Put away distractions like phones or laptops and focus on the person speaking.
• Action: Nodding, maintaining eye contact, and offering verbal affirmations like "I understand" or "That must be hard" can make the person feel heard and valued.

2. Offer Physical Comfort

• Description: Physical touch can be incredibly soothing. A gentle touch or hug can convey empathy and support without words.
• Action: Gauge their comfort level with physical touch. A reassuring pat on the back, holding their hand, or a warm hug can provide significant comfort if they are receptive.

3. Validate Their Feelings

• Description: Validation involves recognizing and accepting the other person’s feelings without judgment.
• Action: Phrases like "It's okay to feel this way" or "Your feelings are valid" can help the person feel understood and less isolated in their experience.

4. Be Present and Patient

• Description: Simply being there and showing patience can be powerful. Your presence alone can be comforting.
• Action: Sit with them in silence, without pressuring them to talk. Sometimes, knowing someone is there can be more comforting than any words.

5. Provide Practical Support

• Description: Sometimes emotional support needs to be coupled with practical help. This can ease the burden they are carrying.
• Action: Offer specific assistance such as running errands, cooking a meal, or helping with household chores. These actions show that you are willing to help in tangible ways.

By incorporating these actions into your interactions, you can provide meaningful support and truly ease the pain of those you care about.

Want an example?

A widely known figure who embodied these attributes is Princess Diana. Known as the "People's Princess," Diana's compassionate and empathetic nature endeared her to millions. Here's how she exemplified these attributes:

Princess Diana: A Legacy of Compassion and Empathy

1. Active ListeningExample: Princess Diana was known for her genuine interest in the lives and stories of the people she met. She often engaged deeply with individuals during visits to hospitals, shelters, and other institutions, ensuring they felt heard and understood.
2. Offer Physical ComfortExample: Diana was renowned for her willingness to offer physical comfort, notably breaking stigmas by hugging and holding the hands of AIDS patients during a time when there was significant fear and misunderstanding about the disease. Her physical touch was a powerful gesture of compassion and acceptance.
3. Validate Their FeelingsExample: She often spoke out about issues like mental health, homelessness, and addiction, validating the feelings and struggles of those affected. Her openness about her struggles also helped validate others' experiences and encouraged them to seek help.
4. Be Present and PatientExample: Diana’s presence was immensely comforting to those she visited. She was known for spending time with individuals, listening to their stories without rushing, and making them feel valued and cared for.
5. Provide Practical SupportExample: Beyond emotional support, Princess Diana actively engaged in charity work, supporting numerous causes and organizations. She helped raise awareness and funds for various issues, including landmine victims, children’s hospitals, and the fight against AIDS, providing practical support to those in need.

Princess Diana’s humanitarian efforts and ability to connect deeply with people from all walks of life left a lasting impact. Her compassionate approach and dedication to easing the pain of others continue to inspire many around the world.

Ralph Waldo Emerson captured the spirit perfectly, “If you would lift me up you must be on higher ground.”? Worth contemplating.