How to be assertive.

The ability to state one's desires calmly and then be willing to repeat them while remaining calm and respectful is a critical skill that will set you apart or assist you in your corporate life journey.

Assertive communication recognises our rights whilst still respecting the rights of others.

It allows us to take responsibilities for ourselves and our actions without judging or blaming other people.

"Each for himself, God for all"

No one cares more about your well-being than you.

We?want?to?please?others?at?the?expense?of?ourselves.

Have your own thoughts!

Lack?of?assertiveness?is?a?sign?of?low?self-esteem?and?confidence.

Some people have walked out of personal relationships without saying anything to the other person because they are unable to express their direct feelings about a problem.

Walking away peacefully could be a genuine way of protecting oneself from one's emotions without being confrontational with the other person.

Perhaps if you had expressed your feelings, there would be resolution and the relationship would be preserved.

You might be unable to express your negative emotions in a healthy manner.

When you can't take it any longer, you hold it within yourself and explode with rage.

This situation exemplifies a passive behavioral pattern.

The person swallows her feelings and tolerates rude behavior from others.

takes everything from anyone, hook, line, and sinker, with no regard for the other party.

We lose our defenses and allow others to control and set their own boundaries, regardless of how we feel.

The majority of us are intimidated by loud voices and allow the situation to control us.

In social situations, we "coil into our shelves like a tortoise."

During the early stages of my career, I was prone to feeling sorry for myself and allowing a toxic work environment to weigh me down.

We are always afraid to express ourselves.

Feelings of discontent, confusion, and anger are typically expressed in private conversations but not in large groups.

These emotions will primarily be expressed later.

Are you the type of person who feels good when others express similar views to yours?

"This guy is just saying what I'm thinking."

Is that a good posture in business or in personal relationships?

Stand up and take charge of your own story.

Perseverance, calmness, standing firm, confidence, and the willingness to find a win-win situation are all characteristics of assertiveness. It is frequently associated with aggression; however, this is a misconception; aggression is not assertive, but rather manipulative.

Have a clear goal in mind and keep in mind that you may be on your own most of the time.

Stick to your principles and values.

How will you stand out at work if you are not expressive and assertive?

"You will be more disappointed by the things you did not do in twenty years than by the ones you did. So let go of the bowlines. Sail away from the protected harbor. Take advantage of the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream". Mark Twain opines.

Most expressive personalities are likely to be passive aggressive rather than assertive.

An?aggressive?person?is?one?who?wins?by?using?power,?inflicts? harm?on?others,?is?intimidating,?manipulates?the??environment

?to?suit?his?or?her?needs,?and?

makes?decisions?for?others.?

"You're?not?OK,"?an?aggressive? says.

He/she?is?overly?expressive,?

emotionally?,honest,?direct,?and?self promoting?at?the?expense?of? others.

At?the?time?of?action,?an?aggressive?person?feels?righteous, superior,?and?possibly? derogatory and later?found?guilty.

You can be expressive while remaining assertive. You are, at best, passive aggressive.

"An introvert's greatest skill is knowing when to speak and when to express one's opinion."

Don't just speak up to be heard; speak up to make a valid and concrete point.

Being assertive is about being yourself.

However, it is more about being assertive.

Someone can be expressive while not being assertive.

Master the art of silence and don't react to every negative thing that comes your way.

Be true to yourself.

Develop self-confidence and the ability to say no politely.

Nobody fights for your interests more than you do in the corporate world.

Emerson Ralph Waldo writes and i agree "What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are insignificant in comparison to what lies within us."

Be yourself, stand up for yourself, and be self-assured.