How To 10X Your Results With The Help Of A Mentor

Need advice and mentorship for your next career step, investment, or entrepreneurial start-up? Make sure you follow the steps of someone who’s been there, done that.

We’re living in one of the most blessed times in our entire human history. We have the freedom to completely study anything we want, where we want, and whenever we want with few clicks on our screen or voice commands on our devices. To put things into perspective, that was quite impossible a few decades ago, even to the most influential people, the royalties, and the people with the highest education level.

This big opportunity also comes with its challenges of a large number of "claimed experts" pitching their services for a fee. So, there’s so much information clutter out there, and everyone is getting extremely confused and overwhelmed. It's becoming harder to realize what’s real and what’s not, and that’s a problem by itself, which leads you to block everything around you and eventually miss on the real opportunity of having the right mentor guiding you.

Unfortunately, there are so many scammers out there, with clever marketing campaigns bombarding you on social media and even on Google! It’s becoming almost impossible to avoid them popping up on your screen. The thing is, many of those impostors are getting rich by just making you feel good and motivated, but with no actionable lessons at all.

How to find a mentor that’s right for you

Ready to get started? Here are the top tips for finding a mentor who can help you 10x your potential.

Go for the “been there, done that” type of mentor

When choosing a mentor, it pays to go with the “been there, done that” type. Go for someone who has had a good share of mistakes and failures, but has eventually emerged as a winner.

The role of a mentor is to share valuable lessons from previous experiences - the good, the bad, and the ugly - and attempt to instill a sense of drive from which you can learn to improve your career, life, or business. This will definitely speed up your personal growth.

A mentor should be someone who truly cares for their students by making them kind of stand in front of a mirror and understand their true strengths and weaknesses. Mentors would help their students leverage their strengths and acknowledge their weaknesses, then overcome those weaknesses.

Mentors should have a track record similar to the one they would like to achieve. Their background (before their success), their failures, and their success should inspire you, yet impress you.

This makes you admire and respect them, thus pushes you to follow their guidance.

Choose a mentor who challenges you

Good mentors should challenge their mentees to get out of their comfort zone. You won’t learn anything new and exciting if your mentor can’t make you see things from new and different perspectives.

Before making your final pick, make sure the one you’ve chosen shares similar experience threads with you - whether there are challenges they managed to overcome or mistakes they’ve learned from in the past.

Mentors not only provide technical and experimental support but should aid in asking you the right questions … and this, in turn, will help you get the right answers.

A mentor’s job is to help you overcome challenges in a completely new and unique way - a way that they’ve used for themselves or their students, and worked well for them.

This means that they have a bulletproof strategy and process, which you can trust and follow without being exposed to unnecessary risks! Without losing time and money on trial and error.

The more their process or their system is documented or published, and the more their process is acknowledged by 3rd party critiques, with testimonials from other students, the more legit is their process.

Find that special someone you admire and relate to

In general, a mentor should be someone who considers you a colleague and who will listen and help you achieve your own career goals.

It should be someone:

• you can talk openly about your ideas, without any red tape,
• who will celebrate your successes, and
• who will and mitigate your fears.

Mentors should help you in achieving skills away from the bench. They will push you to go out and network with others from your industry so that you will find the help and support you might need before you need it.

All good mentors are also willing to be mentored themselves and understand that there is always room for improvement in training others. I see this as a two-way highway, where a mentor helps and guides others, and with an open mind, they would perfect their style and kind of hold your hands and walks you through all the steps and the hiccups you might encounter until you achieve the goals that you have set.

Find a mentor who puts themselves in your shoes

There are many cases where great mentors have done a poor job for their students, despite the fact they had the knowledge, experience, and process required to make them fit as great mentors. The missing ingredients were the art of teaching, the art of being patient, and the art of listening, which all boils down to the fact that they could not relate to their students, despite the fact they were in the same hole at one point of time.

This is one of the most important, and at the same time, the most ignored aspect by people when they’re looking for mentors. They then end up disappointed and confused because they realize that they can’t relate to their mentor's way of teaching and coaching.

So make sure that you will consider this as well when you get someone to become your mentor. Take a look at their content, observe their way of teaching, check their behavior, and see if they have patience and time when it comes to explaining the same thing over and over again - each time from a slightly different angle - until they make sure you grasp a certain concept.

Pick a mentor who is interested in your advancement

One of the first signs that show whether a mentor is a good fit for you and whether they really care about you can be observed in the same moment you first meet them face to face, through a phone call, or on a video call.

Pay attention and see if they are going to ask you the right questions and if they want to find more about you - your current situation, your ambitions, your motivations, and why you want to achieve what you want to achieve.

The next step, which would give you a clear STOP or GO signal, will be to find out if they have ever refused anybody. If they refused people, that means they are true and honest with their work and their students. If they claim and think they can teach everyone all the time, I tell you that’s not possible and that is a sign for you to run away from them immediately!

An informal, but structured, relationship works best with a mentor

People respond better, feel better, look better, and understand better when they can be themselves without being obliged to act in ways different from their natural behaviors.

It’s better to have a mentor with whom you can be open and discuss everything you have in your mind. A good connection with your mentor is going to improve everything, and results will come faster than you can expect!

Similarly, a great mentor will make you feel relaxed, open, and close to them due to their positive attitude and their lack of fear of sharing their failures.

This kind of close relationship allows mentors to openly guide their students, push them to find their own answers at times, keep them on track, and highlight the negative stuff that goes in their heads and behaviors.

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Make sure you are a coachable person

It doesn’t matter what mentor you choose, you can have the best in the world, and it will be useless unless you're coachable.

I want to tackle this topic since few seem to talk about it. There are some situations when you are being the problem and not the mentor! Being coachable is one of life's most important skills and attitudes, whether or not you're an athlete.

If you're any kind of person who wishes to grow, learn, improve, excel or peak perform, you should care about whether or not you're coachable. In other words, being coachable relates to a happy, productive life.

It means you're ready to do what it takes to change, transform, improve or excel … whatever that means for you and your situation.

Being coachable means you're open to listening to feedback, able to receive constructive criticism?without taking it personally, willing to take a look at your own performance to improve it, and generally, a super-badass-enthusiastic go-getter type of person.

It’s very important that you respectfully listen to your mentor, and most of all avoid the tricky mindset of “I already know this”.

To make sure you get the most out of your coaching and take the right amount of action I have some important advice:

Avoid The Syndrome of “I Already Know This”.

I used to think “I already know this”!

Whenever you feel you are lying to yourself with thoughts such as “I Already Know This”, ask yourself those 3 questions:

#1: Am I Doing It?

#2: Have I Mastered It?

#3: Do My Results Prove I Am Doing It & Have Mastered It?

If you have answered “No” to any of the above questions, then obviously you haven’t mastered this topic yet, and your results do prove that.

Every one of us, irrespective of where we fall on the success ladder, still needs guidance, mentorship, and coaching. CEOs of the largest corporations have mentors and coaches... in fact, they need them.

Big egos get the hardest punches from life because there’s no other way for them to learn or realize how toxic this is for them and the people around them.?Being coachable while leaving your ego at the door is about awareness and the ability to take the golden nuggets from a situation and use them to your advantage.

There's wisdom in being coachable. It means you're paying attention to other people and their experience, wisdom, skills, and knowledge.

It pays to listen and learn from others, irrespective of how developed your skills are and be willing to listen close enough to see what might help you on your own journey.

The mentor-mentee relationship is all about give and take. Make sure you listen and more importantly, put their advice into action. A good mentor will hold you accountable and push you to succeed, so don’t waste their time. This will be key to a good long-term mentoring relationship that works for both of you.?

Now that you know how to find a mentor, go on and start looking for the right mentor for you.

Having a skilled mentor can get you closer to your goals.

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