Hooked on Media? Blame Your Monkey Mind!
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Hooked on Media? Blame Your Monkey Mind!

 

 

Nearly 20 years ago, I wrote an article titled “Global Communications and Communities of Choice” for The Community of the Future, a book I co-edited with Frances Hesselbein, Richard Beckhard, and Richard Schubert. It’s turned out to be a very prophetic writing on a topic about which, in this case, I wish I’d been wrong.

In the article, I wrote “Today television addiction is one of the most underrated problems in the United States (with the average child spending thousands of hours watching ‘junk’ TV). In the future, media addiction (which includes TV, the internet, and video games) may well pass drug addiction and alcohol addiction, combined, as a social problem.” It’s happened, unfortunately, and the reason is because media is like amphetamines to the monkey mind.

Mindfulness Is the Solution to Overcoming the Monkey Mind

All of us have a “monkey mind”. It’s when your mind jumps from place to place with very little consciousness about what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. When this happens, you are experiencing your monkey mind.

The solution to controlling the monkey mind syndrome is to remind yourself as often as you can to be aware of the triggers that are impacting your thoughts, feelings and ultimately, your behavior. To the degree that you can, breathe and acknowledge when you feel an impulse from an internal or external trigger. Then ask yourself, “What is the trigger?” “How am I feeling at this moment?” “What am I thinking” “What am I doing?” “Why am I doing this?” This is called being mindful. What is mindfulness?

Mindfulness is just the placement of awareness and reflection between the impulse that follows a trigger and the behavior that follows the impulse.

Like almost everything that I teach. Mindfulness is not hard to understand. It is just hard to do, even more so as we are continually being triggered by a barrage of outside influences, from emails, cell phones, tablets, On Demand TV, movies, games, and social media to name but a few bits and pieces of 21st Century monkey mind candy.

The impact of these triggers can be very difficult to anticipate or even to understand. When we experience a trigger, it may set off a chain reaction of seemingly random associated images from our past. These associated images from our past may then lead to projected images for our future that may change our originally intended behavior – and derail our plan for the day.

Unless we really work at ‘connecting the dots’, we may be totally unaware of why we are doing what we are doing.   Our brief moments of mindfulness can easily vanish – and we won’t even know why.

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Jocelyn Brewer

Psychologist + cyberpsychology consultant | Founder: Digital Nutrition? + MetaWell | Speaker, MC, Writer

9 年

Agree that MIndfulness is an important aspect to overcoming compulsive behaviours -- but calling these 'addictions' isnt quite accurate. Let's consider Digital Nutrition as a proactive way to beat excessive use of technology. Check out more here: https://tedxnorthernsydneyinstitute.com/speaker/jocelyn-brewer/

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Tracey C. Strickland

Director of Tax Resolution at Machen McChesney CPAs in Auburn, AL

9 年

Awesome book. Thank you Tim for introducing me to it .

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Betsey Upchurch

Principal at P4 Consulting, LLC; Certified Presence Based Coach?

9 年

Simple, not easy. Willingness to work at it is a muscle that had to be exercised to stay strong. I think the biggest barrier to working at mindfulness is the repeating thought that there is not enough time. This is a case of taking time to make time as mindfulness creates less reactivity and therefore fewer messes to clean up. Thanks, Marshall, for such a clear and succinct description of the of mindfulness on Monkey Mind.

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Stephen Trainor, Ph.D.

Sam Walton College of Business Teaching Assistant Professor | Faculty Lead @ Walton ExecEd | Expeditionary Leadership Team & Executive Coaching

9 年

Thanks, Marshall! Mindfulness isn't soft and easy, it takes discipline and focus.

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Vic Beaudet

Executive Coach | Career Coach & Job Search | Executive Presence & Communications | Resume & LinkedIn

9 年

Impacted by so many triggers, the monkey mind derails from the attention needed to discern what's necessary vs. what's trivial. Mindfulness creates space between triggers and behavior, or as a friend put it, between stimulus and response. Thanks to Marshall Goldsmith for writing this article.

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