Honesty - It Matters!!

Honesty - It's hard to do, which is why so few people do it and, sadly, not everyone prizes honesty even when it's delivered kindly.  People would rather be lied to than to face a truthful statement because it hurts to hear. Therefore, lying is desired more and believed. In fact, many think being truthful is more of a liability. We are surrounded by dishonest people everywhere, and a study shows that 60% of adults lie at least once during a 10-minute conversation. All of us have faced difficult situations and how we react to situations that tempt us to be dishonest can reveal what values we hold dear. For example, if saving face is important to us, we would likely view being dishonest as just another tool. Therefore, more people take the easy way out, the nonconfrontational method. These people are more worried with how they look and think more about their own personal dress code than their personal moral code. To be honest, we need a strong moral code that doesn't succumb to losing the battle when we're fearful. We need to stand up against dishonesty in the forms of lying, slander, fraud, and stealing. We need to stay true to our fundamental belief that dishonesty does more harm in the long run. Trust is built over time with repeated and constant truth where actions should match your words. And when deception takes place, another dishonest person would match in dishonesty while an honest person would sever any form of the relationship. Don't fall into the trap of dishonesty. Don't fall into fear of difficult situations and not putting your big girl/boy undies on and dealing with the conflict. Don't fall into the trap of speaking lies one minute and speaking truth the next. As salt water and fresh water cannot mix, neither can honesty and dishonesty. There is no gray matter, it's black and white. You're either an honest person or not. You are not and either or person, you are a yes or no person. When you fib, you have to remember the lie but being honest never has to worry you. Who you are matters. What you do matters. What you say matters. What you don't do matters. Don't save face with others, save your own face instead!