Holiday Recipe - 2024 Edition

Holiday Recipe - 2024 Edition

This is not a food recipe for special turkey or pumpkin pie.??? This is a recipe for a peaceful, conflict-free balanced and restful Thanksgiving or another upcoming holiday.?? Thanksgiving has the reputation for being the most stressful and conflict-prone holiday of the year. That’s a shame, but I am sure it’s due to stress of the long time traveling, way too much cooking and running around, big expectations, and forcing all your relatives to sit together and eat a huge meal.

Based on some well-known conflict management strategies, we can use constructive methods, and you can have a great Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, or other family gathering.??

Recipe for Peace:

1.???? You’ll never please every personality or palate.?? You’ll become weary trying to make the perfect food and experience for all your guests.?? Try to relax and check your expectations. Don't worry about cleaning every nook of your house (save some energy for cleaning afterwards!) Many items are delicious made from the grocery store so let go of having to make all the items or change things up.

If you are the guest, be flexible and adaptable and polite. It’s a gift to be invited over, so make do and eat whatever is served or just pass on items you can’t eat. Offer to help with preparing food, setting the table or washing dishes.

2.???? Commit to staying cool and letting disruptive conversation pass by.?Update: We just had an election. Read the room, hold your tongue. Everybody may not see your point of view, and I have seen holiday dinner ruined over politics. Conversations your have with your spouse or best friend about politics are not the same conversations you'll unleash at Thanksgiving. ? Many of us are triggered by certain people, topics, or conversation.? If this happens, decide to release yourself feeling like a target or discussing things that are upsetting.?? Practice a response in advance that is neutral, or if possible, take a break, get up and go outside or offer to do a chore, like the dishes or taking out the trash.? This will provide you a cooling off period. You can always leave early too if you are very upset.?? Tell the host that you have other places to go.

3.???? Avoid winning at all costs.?? If there is a debate or something is said that you object to or disagree with, you do not have to respond.?? You can tell yourself “I don’t care enough about this to start an argument at Thanksgiving. This is only one day”.? Let it go. You don’t have to win and prove you are smarter or have a better idea.? You may cost others the peace they deserve at the dinner table.

4.???? Spend time with a relative you don’t get a lot of time with normally. It might be an elder, a distant aunt or cousin.? Learning from their wisdom and experiences might be refreshing.?? Be mindful and realize some friends and family experience sadness and loss at the holidays. Take perspective of how others feel and be a good listener. Reach out to a friend who may have lost a loved one this year.

5. New: Talk about something good: What you're looking forward to, updates on a new job, something positive you witnessed that is uplifting. You can change the mood in the room. Smile, laugh, compliment on the food, how great someone looks!

6.???? Remember what the holiday is for, and be thankful for being alive, having good health, and having the opportunity to eat and share with others.

?Enjoy this recipe and all the holidays and let there be peace at your house!

SB Rawz

Coaching, Speaking, & Writing into existence the world I want for us all

3 个月

I love "This is only one day." We can come back to the conversations that are most important to us... on another day. Thank you, Karen! Wishing you and yours peace and the joy of one another's company!

回复
Lisa Isbell, CSA, CDP

Eldercare Consulting Focused on Senior Living

1 年

Great recipe, Karen! Happy Thanksgiving!

回复

要查看或添加评论,请登录

Karen Gulliford, M.Ed., PCC的更多文章

  • Questions to Look Inside Yourself During Crisis

    Questions to Look Inside Yourself During Crisis

    If you’re feeling a little sideways right now, I get it. This year has placed many of us in a whirlwind of disruption…

    3 条评论
  • What will you do to serve?

    What will you do to serve?

    Today we celebrate our Veterans, American heroes. There is never enough we can do to say 'thank you' to the men and…

    1 条评论

社区洞察

其他会员也浏览了