This Holiday, Don’t Love Your Family to Death

3 Tips for talking to a loved one struggling with addiction

It’s natural to want a picture-perfect holiday with your family, even if a loved one is struggling with addiction. 'Tis the season to turn a blind eye and avoid confrontation in favor of a happy holiday vibe. But it doesn’t have to be.

I’m here to tell you that there’s actually a risk of being too loving this holiday season. If you have a family member or friend with substance use disorder, don’t be afraid to have the conversation that you’ve been putting off for far too long. It’s never easy conversation, but it could be life-saving.

In 2021, the overdose death rate was the highest ever in U.S. history. Alcohol-related deaths increased by over 25% during the pandemic. And these figures don’t include the staggering number of non-fatal drug and alcohol-related incidents and injuries that have wreaked havoc on individuals and communities.

It takes courage for families to step up and have the tough discussions. Let the following three tips be your guide at holiday time, or any time:

1)????Know the signs that a loved one is in trouble. These can include being secretive or evasive. Mood swings. Major changes in sleep. Blackouts. Changes in attitude or appearance. Job loss. Relationship trouble. Failing to meet obligations. Loss of interest in things they used to enjoy.

2)????Get the conversation started. Be supportive, kind and understanding. Don’t blame or criticize. Instead, be specific about what you’ve noticed in your loved one. Express your worry for their health and wellbeing, and for the effect their addiction might have on their job or relationships. Finally, remind them that help is available through professional counselors, groups or programs such as Aware Recovery Care ’s in-home treatment model.

3)????How the person responds is not your responsibility. They may get upset and not seek help immediately, but they will definitely not seek help if nothing changes. At the very least, they can walk away knowing that you care. Sometimes, that’s just the catalyst they need.

So, this holiday season don’t love your family to death by avoiding an uncomfortable conversation. It is the most important gift they’ll ever receive.?