Holding Space, Holding Power

As the world feels increasingly polarized and uncertain, I’ve been reflecting on what it means to truly hold space for others. We hear the term a fair amount in conversations about leadership and connection, but its meaning is often misunderstood—or worse, dismissed as unnecessary.

Holding space isn’t passive, and it isn’t a retreat from responsibility. It’s an active, intentional practice that demands presence, care, and courage. It’s about creating an environment where others feel heard, valued, and supported—not for your sake, but for theirs.

And in a time when systemic inequities, divisive rhetoric, and oppressive policies are on the rise, holding space is not just a skill; it’s a necessity. For those who have been marginalized, silenced, or strategically disadvantaged, having space held for them can be a radical act of justice.

As Audre Lorde once said, “I am deliberate and afraid of nothing.” Holding space is about being deliberate in how we show up for one another, especially when the world threatens to silence or dismiss our voices. Let’s explore what this means, what it doesn’t, and how we can embrace this practice in our personal and professional lives.

What Does It Mean to Hold Space?

Holding space is an act of radical presence. It’s not about controlling the narrative or fixing someone else’s pain. Instead, it’s about creating a container—a space where someone can process, share, and be exactly who they are without fear of judgment or dismissal.

When you hold space for someone, you are:

• Listening deeply. This means not just hearing their words but paying attention to their emotions, body language, and silence.
• Validating their experience. You’re saying, “I see you. Your feelings and experiences are real and worthy.”
• Allowing them to lead. You’re resisting the urge to jump in with solutions or directives, letting them guide the conversation instead.

But let’s be clear about what holding space is not:

• It’s not avoiding accountability. Holding space requires us to name harm and stand against injustice when it arises.
• It’s not centering yourself. This isn’t the time to share your similar story or offer unsolicited advice.
• It’s not a passive act. Holding space is an active commitment to being present and engaged, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Why Holding Space Matters for Empowerment and Equity

For those who have been marginalized—whether by race, gender, class, or other systems of oppression—holding space is more than a kind gesture. It’s a form of resistance. It says:

• “Your voice matters.”
• “You have a right to take up space.”
• “I will not let the systems designed to diminish you succeed.”

Holding space creates the psychological safety needed for people to show up fully, to be vulnerable, and to speak their truth. For Black women and others from the global majority, it can be the first step toward reclaiming agency in spaces that have historically excluded or undervalued us.

This is particularly urgent now, as the scales of justice tip dangerously out of balance, threatening equity, justice, and liberty for many. Holding space isn’t about sitting on the sidelines—it’s about standing firm in support of those whose rights and humanity are under attack.

How Do You Foster Trust and Psychological Safety?

Holding space begins with trust. Without trust, there is no safety; without safety, there is no connection. Here’s how you can foster both:

1. Show Up Consistently. Trust is built over time. Be reliable, follow through on your commitments, and be present when it matters most.
2. Own Your Mistakes. Perfection isn’t the goal; accountability is. When you get it wrong, acknowledge it, apologize, and learn from it.
3. Respect Boundaries. Holding space doesn’t mean pushing for more than someone is willing to share. Respect their limits and let them lead the way.
4. Center Humility. You don’t need to have all the answers. Sometimes, your presence and willingness to listen are enough.

The Balance Between Listening and Guiding

One of the most challenging aspects of holding space is knowing when to simply listen and when to guide. It’s a delicate balance, and the key is consent.

Before offering guidance, ask:

• “Would you like me to just listen, or are you looking for advice?”
• “How can I best support you right now?”

This shifts the power back to the person you’re holding space for, allowing them to articulate what they need. When guidance is invited, offer it gently:

• Reflect back what you’ve heard: “It sounds like you’re feeling [emotion].”
• Share possibilities, not directives: “Have you considered [option]?”

Remember, holding space isn’t about fixing. It’s about creating a safe environment where someone can find their own answers.

Final Thoughts

Holding space is an act of care, courage, and empowerment. It’s about creating room for others to be seen and valued in their fullness. And it’s a practice—something we must commit to, learn from, and grow into over time.

In a world that often feels divided and dangerous, holding space reminds us of our shared humanity. It allows us to connect across differences, to challenge injustice, and to build communities where everyone can thrive.

As leaders, collaborators, and friends, let’s move forward with intention. Let’s hold space for one another with grace and accountability. Let’s create environments where people feel safe enough to be their truest, most empowered selves.

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Warmly,

Dr. Kim Davis

Founder & President, Five/6teen Consulting