Holding Space

What does it mean to "hold space?" Let's take a closer look through this article written by Anti-Racist Hot Dog team member Joy Radachy Bannister ! Follow us and the rest of our blogs on our website. We educate schools, businesses, and organizations through parties, cooking classes, consultations, and more. No question is off limits. Contact us?at www.antiracisthotdog.com.

You may have heard the term “holding space.” But do you know what it means? Holding space is the practice of being completely there for someone, focusing all your attention and energy on what they have to say. It requires safety, privacy, and zero judgement.

Why is this important in the workplace? Forbes reports that, according to a global study, "74% of employees report they are more effective at their job when they feel heard.”

Indeed, holding space for someone can be an effective way to provide support and allow them to feel heard. But it takes practice. You have to turn off your ego and open yourself to the experiences of others.?

Now, let’s explore holding space for others.

Let’s Get it Started

According to the DMC Clinic, “Feeling genuinely heard and understood is truly transformative.” Being heard provides validation. It shows people that they matter and are respected.

So, you’ve identified someone who needs to talk. Maybe a work colleague is quieter than usual. Or a friend has been uncharacteristically short-tempered.?

First, approach them in a gentle, non-confrontational manner. Ask if it’s a good time to have a chat. Next, start by ensuring the conversation takes place somewhere private. Comfortable seating, drinks, and tissues are helpful, too. Then, turn all phones to silent and put them away. Minimizing distractions is key.

Ask what the other person wants to talk about. Let them guide the conversation. You’re there to listen.?

Holding Space

Now that you’ve connected with someone who needs to talk, it’s time to provide a safe place. GS Therapy Center offers some helpful insight on how best to do this. Here are some of our favorite practices:

• Listen to understand, not to respond. To actively listen, focus only on what the other person says. Then repeat back to them what you have taken from their words. This ensures understanding, the foundation of a safe space.

• Stay focused. You’re there to listen without judgement and give the speaker a place to safely express themselves. You are not there to solve their problems. So, resist the urge to offer advice or share your experiences. This is not the time or place. Don’t check your phone or watch. Truly devote your time and attention to this person and their needs, remaining fully present
• Believe. Your experiences limit your understanding. We don’t know what others are going through. Trust whatever someone chooses to share with you as their truth.?
• Accept. Accept their observations and emotions freely. Allow them to express whatever they need to.?
• Reassure. Offer to hold their hand or hug them, if appropriate. Don’t make empty promises. If you’re able to provide a safe space again in the future, tell them. Just knowing they have someone who believes them and accepts them can be a great comfort.
• Reflect. Following the engagement, take time to reflect and decompress. Also realize that all experiences and reactions are different and all feelings are valid.??

Keep Holding

Holding space for someone lets them feel heard, and feeling heard can contribute to emotional well-being. The DMC Clinic states that being heard is “directly connected to their self-esteem, self-worth, self-image and is therefore connected to the very core of who they are.”

Consequently, holding space for others benefits the workforce. As Forbes reported, “Highly engaged employees are three times more likely to say they feel heard at their workplace.”

Of course, it’s important to keep confidential everything shared with you during your interaction. If you offered to provide any further assistance, be sure to follow through. Commit to what you said, whether that means changing your behavior or seeking other solutions.?

Above all, continue to treat the other party with respect and kindness. Your holding space for another person doesn’t end with the conversation. Keep your heart and mind open.

We can help you learn how to employ these strategies in the workplace. Schedule a consultation with us today. #deistrategies #antiracist #blm #dei