Hidden Resistance.
This week I'm writing about a hidden pressure which always gets in the way.
As always, I hope you find value in this.
I had a call with a successful CEO last week.
During our conversation he shared his aspirations for the year ahead.
I noticed his language...
"we need to grow revenues by at least 30% this year"
"we must hit our Q1 target and we have to launch our new product in Q2"
"we should then expand the team in the summer to give us capacity."
His energy felt heavy.
Part of what I helped him with on the call was to become aware of how his thinking was in his way.
He'd loaded himself up with what American psychologist Albert Ellis referred to as "musturbatory demands".
Need to, have to, should do, must do, want to.
As such, he was creating a hidden but very real resistance to the outcomes he wanted.
Whilst we can realise absolutely any vision or goal we desire, our alignment and emotional relationship with it is mission critical...
So, when we demand certainty in the way this CEO was, we're setting ourself up for guaranteed self-sabotage.
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Demanding and needing certainty always stifles results.
It's like trying to force a river to flow faster by pushing the water!
I encouraged him to reframe his aspirations.
To forget about have to, need to, must do, should do, want to and to give life to what he'd love to...
Because something remarkable happens when we lift the weight of rigid demands.
Something remarkable happens when we return to what's natural and lead from the heart, not the mind.
Our mind becomes clearer, our decision-making and actions become effortless, teams perform so much better and opportunities emerge.
Opportunities which were always there but could literally not be seen through a lens of "must".
Performance and results always improve and shift dramatically when we stop demanding they must.
When we allow our vision, heart and intuition to lead instead of being led by the fearful mind and current circumstances, we see the only thing that is ever in our way...
The resistance we create through our reasoning, logic and the need for certainty.
What if realising all you'd love in business this year whilst loving the journey isn't about strategy or striving but about seeing through a completely new lens?
It is.
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1 个月This is brilliant Rob Begg - I loved it all and especially this part "forget about have to, need to, must do, should do, want to and to give life to what he'd love to. Your posts always make me so happy
Great article Rob Begg. The start of any new year is always subconsciously loaded with notions of "this year is the year I should really get my act together and do XYZ" I can sense it in myself. But I can also sense that heavy, logical, mind-centred energy you reference that comes with the 'musturbatory' mindset. Leading from the heart is beautifully freeing. But it can be difficult let go of that logical, rational way of strategising. We live in a culture that adores rationality, control and certainty. No where more so than in business. The traditional business narrative doesn't tend to promote leading from the heart. There's too much woolliness and uncertainty involved. But I heard a lovely way of thinking about uncertainty the other day. Don't think of uncertainty as a scary and unpredictable future but as the precious source of freedom and opportunity. Without uncertainty there is no freedom. Without uncertainty there is no opportunity. ?? ??