"Why don't you listen to me. Let me complete. Don't Interrupt".
Ramesh Sood
I help leaders to change, grow and feel awesome about themselves by becoming Coach Leaders | NLP & Trust Conversations
"Hey, listen to me. Let me complete. Don't Interrupt", oh, how many times one hears this sentence or may be says it too. It's so difficult to listen to someone patiently till they complete what they have to say. I recall a verse I wrote a few years ago:
Oh, my God! Listening is indeed difficult. The moment someone starts talking and if it is more about his achievements, how difficult it is to keep pace with him. Mind begins to explore from millions of memories of the past to respond so as to score over that ‘someone’. .
Because scoring over the other person is what it is all about. "Your story may be good but listen to mine it is better" and I used to be always ready with a start fully attentive for catching any little gap to cut the person off and start my own story. And I often did it successfully and hence kept losing friends too constantly.
Sitting in groups, I often hear people kind of making a plea to others - Hey, listen, let me complete.. But then ..it is really difficult.. Mind just likes to jump..and it does..
Once I got this insight, I realised that to become successful in my work I shall have to become a good listener. It will be essential for me to take a pause before I am tempted to speak and hold myself till the other person completes telling me what he/she wants to.. And perhaps the most important would be to understand if the person really wants me to say something after he/she has spoken..
Many a time I have observed myself speaking and sharing without expecting a reaction or a response from the other person. In those moments perhaps I just want the person to let it get out of my system. That's perhaps the most important part that I learned because others may have the similar unexpressed need and only by understanding that need I can become a good listener..
Taking a pause is the key. Well, let us practice as you read and think.. take a pause.. think. Something has changed; isn't it.?
Well, now that I have said what I wanted to. You may like to respond...They say feedback is breakfast of champions..trust me , for me it will be a full day's nourishing meal .
RS:)
Pensioner
8 年Positive feedback shows you have achieved some if not all of your aims. Negative feedback highlights what you may need to work on. There can be negative positive feedback which says you have done well, but not exactly what it was you did well. Better is the positive negative feedback which tells what they did not like and suggests how you might improve that aspect.
US Army veteran, Parkinson's Survivor.
8 年"They say feedback is breakfast of champions." When asking for feedback, be aware that this opens the door for negative feedback as well as positive feedback. While it feels good to have our ego stroked for a job well done, negative feedback will point out potential points of failure that will need to be addressed in order to achieve long term success.