Helping Your Loved Ones Transition

From being a little boy whose mother was diagnosed with terminal breast cancer, becoming an atheist as a child, & starting a spiritual awakening in 2017, to now nurturing my soul-cat Diablo through his end of life transition - I have allowed Death to teach me greatly.

I have had no choice.

With Diablo's aging, & physical fading, comes tremendous primordial grief, painfully ripping open my heart strings to let more Love enter.?

It is part of Bobby's purpose to teach me how to lead these transitions with the utmost grace & dignity that stem from neutral presence.

I want to share some of this precious wisdom with you.

I got Diablo when I was 18, a senior in high school.

He healed my heart, he met every women I've dated, & he's been there for every breakup.

So many cold lonely nights I spent with Diablo's purrs as my anchor.

So many cold lonely nights I spent in my car, somewhere on the continent feeling sorry that I couldn't be with my son - Bobby.

And here we are.

Here he is.

The back of his feet starting to mat, more discomfort setting in, & more than anything a strange feeling in the air.

We are grateful to share this chapter & pass on some wisdom for you (or anyone who may be navigating a similar situation):

?? Just empathize - The process of dying often comes with pain, terror, and grief.. and sometimes embarrassment & confusion.. One big thing you can do is simply be present with the arising of these feelings, feel them alongside the person who is transitioning.. it will automatically create an energetic sense of safety & security

?? Remain neutral - It's very easy to get caught up in our stories about death being the end, the horror of mortality, & so on and so forth. This is not the time to get existential. Stay present with what arises, with nonjudgemental acceptance.

?? Stay connected?- Remember this is much bigger than your lifetime or your loved ones lifetime. Honor your time together,?having faith in the ripples of impact and purpose. Know that there is experience after death, & maybe you can feel inspired to lead a life more in tune with unseen dimensions.

?? Just be Present - This is a tremendous time to practice meditation. When confronted with the pain of loss & grief, the mind wants to go into overdrive. It takes real courage and will to do the opposite - slow down and be present. Allow their transition to continue adding value to your life by reminding you to simply slow down and be present, if only for a few moments at a time. No thinking. It gets easier.

?? Gratitude - Be grateful for the remaining vitality and life force your loved one dutifully harbors. Be grateful for your shared chapter. Give them profound thanks for the role they played in your life. Now is the time for flowers.

?? Allow for Mystery - natural transition of death involves first orienting oneself with the spiritual planes prior to transitioning. Staring off into the distance, going into deep REM frequently, & difficulty reorienting to this reality are signs that your loved one is looking down the birth canal of their next chapter. It hurts & it's okay.

I love you all so much and I appreciate you reading these words.

My heart is so totally broken right now.

Thank you, Bobby <3