A helping hand is filled with blessings

When the situation is one where you can help, and it is truly needed, then yes. But if someone has been a deadbeat, doesn’t want to work, and just wants hand outs, then no, because helping them will just enable them to continue to not take responsibility for their life. It is more blessed to give than to receive and we are blessed to be a blessing…but I use those beliefs to help orphans, the disabled veterans, basically, those who truly need our help.

I pause to think for a long minute when I carefully consider the likely outcome of any help I would provide anybody. Will my help make their life different in any way? Better? How so? Short- and Long-term results? Are they putting forth effort and if not, why not? It is possible to actually harm others when trying to help. All may not have the same end goal and feelings get hurt easily when Change goes along with the money…For some, asking for “help" is a way of life, a means to an end that will be unchanged forever.

It can also be a co-dependent action that enables the recipients bad behavior or even done because the donor won't make sure his own house is in order first. And another consideration is whether to give to an established group and let them set the requirements to get services or to proceed with a more personal approach and give directly to those whose situation you become aware of through friends or other ways. So the decision of whether to “give" to or “help" others is a very personal choice to make. And while some will and others won't, this decision might be better kept quiet rather than try to argue the pros and cons with others who might be of a different opinion. Politics, Money, and Religion are private matters indeed.

I recommend helping anyone (use discernment,) especially if you have the means of helping out a fellow human. You don’t have to know the person I order to help or like the way they look - help is important. We’re all humans, from the same planet, same universe, etc. it’s okay to help. I have grown up children, as a parent I hold onto hope. My children mean the world to me; I cannot be everywhere they’re at in life. I hope that if a scenario surfaces, and they need help; I hope that some father or mother out there and will recognize another parent’s child and render help. I just know there is good in the world.

Always give help because you want to. Do not give help if you expect something in return because then, you helped for the wrong reason. Also do not help to get clout of any kind. Doing so will make the other person(s) feel less dignified. If you feel it, then do it. If you are able to help financially, do not expect to see it come back. Always remember how you would want to be treated if you were in that situation.?Of course depending on your intentions/expectations for doing so. If you are doing it because you genuinely want to help, want to try something new and think this is a good place to start, bc it makes you feel better, etc. then absolutely give hands when and wherever you can.

However, if you are doing it with the expectation that they will then owe you something in return or for another unhelpful agenda in mind (i.e. so you can post pics of you helping to make yourself look better) then I suggest holding off until you get your intentions in the right place. A myriad of humans on earth with different and ever changing traits. Some needs help and some fake it. For you who wants to help, I suggest don’t be that person who seeks help eventually but you can surely try to help. As we are born to see the good side of people, we always should make some room for the other side as well which is not favorable. See, if there is right; there’s wrong, the whole universe follows the same rule for each and everything.

I do sometimes and will help random strangers especially if they are obviously older and physically or mentally challenged. Younger ones that are able bodied sends red flags. So follow your heart with a bit of logic or common sense. Wish you better not bitter ever when giving. When I give I go by a rule of thumb by asking myself is this something I would want to receive. (Like old dirty clothes, aka rags vs. gently used clothes still in good condition) I won't ever give rags, or something suitable for trash to any person. Why give what you would give freely, without expectation of anything in return. Ever.

Count the costs, and give when and what you are willing to freely. Give less and you will live in the pain of regret, always asking what you could have done. Give more and you will expect reciprocity when none was promised, which breeds a bitter heart. The sweet spot yields contentment and peace. Every human being has a same story. We are born, we live, we die. How we differ is the way we live. What do we live for? Money? Fame? Amusement? What?

These all are temporary stuffs which do not last much. What matters is how we connect to people , there’s a saying, a friend in need is a friend indeed. For some, helping is a way to connect to people. It does not matters who they are, what matters is they are human beings and we are of same race. I love helping because after another 20+ years or so, when I will be into my last breaths, it will give me joy that I have given mankind a bit and brought smiles on their faces. I will die peacefully with those 1000s of smiles because karma always pays you back. Cheers!