Help me get what I want!

Almost 100% of the time when I challenge someone to meet a target goal, keep a commitment, arrive to a meeting on time (early is on time), or any gap between what is wanted and what is.......I hear, if "any name", "any event", "any obstacle" "any fill in the blank" was not in my way or would do their job, I would not have a gap.

I see protesters yelling, obstructing, destroying and insulting to close the gap between what they want and what is. And the message I hear is, "Help me, I don't know how to get what I want so I need everyone to be how I want them to be so I can be successful, credible, reliable, professional and demonstrate integrity". My success in in the hands of other people, chance or luck. I am a victim with no power. And when the protest ends, nothing changes, or no one is changed.

Why do we easily give up our power to change. Choose to change ourselves. Change our behavior to get what we want. If there is a gap in your life right now.

Ask yourself

What do I want?

What am I doing to get it?

How is it working?

What can I do differently?

What will I do differently?

It's a Plan Do Check Act (PDCA) for life. Continuous improvement driven by your behavior and its effect on the world around you. Now you can be the Hero of your story and answer the tough question, "who do I want to be when the world is not being who you want it to be".

You can choose to be a difference maker in a world of people who give up, complain and destroy what others have built. They loudly say, "Help me, I'm ineffective at getting what I want". Don't join their chorus. When asked why you have a gap, say here is what I have tried that did not work, here is what I'm trying now. It will be like water in the desert to any leader.