Help! I need somebody.....

Help – I need somebody!

I quite like some aspects of social media. I find that sometimes things resonate, and you can find alignment and knowledge on all sorts of platforms. I do see the dangers though. As I write this on World Suicide Prevention Day, I can see if you are in any way shape or form even marginally vulnerable then it can do damage to your mental fitness levels. Fear of missing out (FOMO), a sense of comparison and then inadequacy can lead to self-loathing a feeling of unworthiness and low self-worth. If you can’t rationalise these or come out of your introspection, I understand the damage that can be done. I am 51. I grew up without tech, outside, it’s easy for me to see from the distance age, experience and fresh air has given me.

Two things on social media this week made me reflect and then act. This was the first “How old were you when you realised your original plan of being really nice, working really hard and taking on more than you should, in the hope you would be rewarded was totally shit” Ha, I was 50. What a complete waste of my potential, my energy! Overworking and over giving in jobs, businesses, and relationships. Moving forward however, the past is in the past…….let it go!

Another was a post by a Coaching Psychologist, (I can see when they don’t want to be known as Psycho coaches) this one included the ingredients for success. These were;

1.?????? Discipline – Well I have that. Have had that for years. I move forward and do things even if I don’t want to, go places I don’t want to and am reliable and consistently intrinsically motivated to do my best and have strange, abundant levels of energy. I’m exhausting.

2.?????? Curiosity – Yup I have that too. About people, places, and things. I read everything from notices in the post office to mighty literary tomes and research papers, I go out, I look up and I look closely. My children call me nosey; I call me interested, fascinated.

3.?????? Adaptability – Oh I have this too. I can bend like a willow and then make bows and arrows that shoot accurately with the wood! all while catering for the masses (in a very non-religious Jesus Christ type way) and entertaining a crowd that is becoming restless. I can read the room! I am adaptable in work and at home.

4.?????? Resilience – That I have as well. I practice discomfort, take the road less travelled, which is steep and full of potholes and rocks with icy patches. I walk in pinchy, too small, gripless shoes on this road, I have fallen, slipped and tripped (I’m still falling over), moving forward bloodied and bruised but unbroken. I have the ingredients for the cake called success!! Let’s get cooking….. oh hang on……

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So why am I not Beyonce? I can sing and am happy wearing a nude, sparkly cat suit, hair flying in a wind tunnel; my twerk is legendary if unorthodox and out of sync (will need to read the room first though, tough crowd). I don’t fear much.

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I know I am successful in lots of ways. My previous business was a success, my children are well and happy, I have beautiful friends and family, my health is good (which I am super grateful to have and never ever take for granted), a sense of humour remains, mostly, and my levels of self-efficacy are high and solid. I am confident and very competent so why would I need to be Beyonce? Well not her, she is already taken, but you know, MORE when I am enough, I have enough.

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It’s because I know I can make a difference. I have the knowledge, skills, and resources to empower and educate through fun and laughter. To enable people, if they want it, to live a full, independent, adventurous, and generous life, to know they have choices, to make informed decisions and yes, to take risks. I Depend on Me Ltd is totally aligned with my purpose. My work is my life, that is the balance and the point.

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So, I need to do something I have never been able do and so haven't until now. Something so difficult and uncomfortable, and, which I know is a trauma response – thank you Pschyo Coaches. I am forced, before I can put my success cake mix into the oven, to ASK FOR HELP!!!! This Princess is going to find the pea hidden in her mattresses, and I am calling in the big guns. Ally Berry Brand photographer and Kate Delaney, Hypnotherapist and coach. ?The last ingredient I need (and it is almost there, the pea is a petit poi) is unstoppable, unbreakable, unshakable, and powerful self-belief.

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This cake once baked is going to be great, the world stage, tourdrobe and entourage await. I’d ask you to share the cake, I am generous, but I want you (and you need) to make your own. If you want help financing your most adventurous and generous life, I can help with it. I will cheerlead and don the cat suit with the sparkles; you just need to ask and do the work. It’s difficult asking for help, I do understand but it will be worth it, I want to and need to guide. Value I guarantee. I won’t be chasing you though, I’ve got no grip on my shoes!.

Julia is Director of I Depend on Me Ltd Financial Education, Coaching and Mentoring. Specialist in Wealth and Wellbeing for Women and Teenagers.

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Courses include. Money Grows with Trees walking financial coaching, WIFE (Women into Financial Empowerment) Widows, Carers and Divorcees and a course for New Mums. My 1st ￡Million 6 week Course for teenagers and stand alone Money Block interactive presentations.

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