“The Heartbeat: It’s never too late."

A weekly email for women entrepreneurs of color filled with powerful mindset techniques to create a life + business you love.

Dear Judy, My partner calls me the love of his life.

Having gone through a divorce, I’m much more pragmatic about relationships now. I wish someone had told me that getting married is a business contract and, second to having a child with someone, is one of the most important decisions you’ll make —?because the impact can be monumental.

My partner and I have been together for more than three years. It’s taken me at least this long to learn how to be in a healthy, trusting, respectful relationship.

And, I’m still learning how to open up.

Over the last year, I’ve repeated to my therapist, “I know I care more for him than I’ll admit to myself.”

Until recently, when I allowed myself to embrace that I feel the same way about him: this man is the love of my life.

If you take the average lifespan of an American woman (which is 79) then you could say that it’s taken me more than half of my time on this planet to understand what genuine love is…

There are two ways to look at this:

Either I’m way behind schedule…

Or…

I’m right on divine timing.

I like to look at it from the latter point of view —?I deeply appreciate this relationship so much more than I would have in my 20s or 30s, because of the years I spent veering off what I thought would be my life course into dark plots of pain, shores of brilliant experiences, and muddy mistakes that led to wisdom…

Wild Heart, are you behind schedule or right on divine timing?

Modern space travel —?the most advanced of technology —?is about constant course correcting.

The Apollo rocket, in its quest to land astronauts on the moon, was actually on course only 2-3% of the time.

That means at least 97% of the time it took to get from Earth to the moon, the Apollo rocket was off course.

And, it not only reached the moon safely, but it also came back to Earth safely.

At the time, this machine was one of the most sophisticated, expensive, and finely calibrated pieces of technology ever invented. Even still, it was constantly correcting its own off-course errors 29 out of 30 minutes.

If the most advanced product developed by a collective of some of the world’s most intelligent people could only “get it right” 2-3% of the time, how reasonable is it to expect that you —?on your own — could do better than those odds?

If you were to match Apollo’s degree of accuracy in the pursuit of your own goals, that would mean you are perfectly on target and on course no more than 10 days in any given year.

The next time you’re beating yourself up or feeling like you’ve gotten off track, perhaps you can remember this anecdote about Apollo, and let it be a reminder to be more compassionate with where you are versus where you thought you’d be.

A lot of people try to avoid being off course at all costs. It’s seen as failing.

Yet, the most successful people would encourage you to keep making mistakes.

In fact, they’d tell you to double your rate of “failure” because that’s where you’ll find success —?on the other side of being off-course.

I hope you found this helpful. ?

Love, Judy

P.S. The space anecdote is from the book, The Slight Edge. I highly recommend it to every entrepreneur.

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