Healing Doesn't Mean the Damage never Existed - Part 2

I upped my social game, spending as much time as I could with friends and family. I always made plans when the kids were with their dad. It is fair to say that I had zero “alone time” coping skills. I took up drinking wine. I engaged in flirtatious conversations on various dating apps. Retail therapy soothed my soul (temporarily). All these things served as band-aids for my deeper underlying hurt. Eventually, a night alone couldn’t be helped. I would have to brave it, and it was terrible. I had to teach myself how to be alone. In the beginning, I fell apart…a lot. It was the loneliest I’ve ever felt. I had to start planning out “alone time”. A friend suggested that I start by making “alone time” plans for myself. These started out small: watch a movie, paint my nails, re-arrange a room, organize my closet. To my surprise, I regained a sense of independence from re-decorating. I worked on creating a space that was “mine” in a space that used to be shared. I didn’t have to ask someone to hang a painting, or move a chair, or to weigh in on a new colour scheme. It was oddly satisfying. Again over “time”, I began to look forward to these small bits of time by myself. Never in a million years did I think that would happen.

Finding things that made me happy focused my energy on myself in a positive way instead of staying stuck in negative thought patterns that in the end would change nothing about my situation.

The process of figuring out what things in particular made me happy became an adventure; something to look forward to, and I got excited about life again.

Feeling the feelings has always been a difficult task for me. I’ve had to learn when it’s okay to sit in the crap. I’d beat myself up for being so down that I’d try to rush past the uncomfortable and painful moments. This is not a solution. I repeat: This is a not a solution. Story Culled from:?I Do, I Did, and I’m Not Done.

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Program Manager Position

The Nucleus Transformation Mentoring Hub is a project close to my heart. According to Samuel Jackson, "The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good." This is a mentoring program designed for young men between the ages of 18 and 24 years old.

Our focus at the Hub is development of our mentees career, life, relationship and faith. Young men needs to be developed into healthy and responsible men who can become proud of the men they are growing to become and be fulfilled in their God-given purpose, while becoming families, communities, institutional and nation builders.

There are four levels of membership Application into the Hub namely; Bronze - 3month, Silver - 6months, Gold -9months and Platinum - 12months.

Therefore we are looking for a Program Manager who will be committed to the success of the Mentoring Program. Job requirements include managing and organising the program, marketing and business development activities for the program towards driving engagement & enrolment into the program. It is designed strictly for young men.

The job is expected to be hybrid in format which will involve both physical and remote working on a 30:70 ratio. If you this looks like what you are passionate about then?Apply Here

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