How to heal Self-doubts& Unworthiness?

It is clear, evident that we all in certain areas of life experience self-doubts and it may flashback some past traumatic memories either in the form of images, sounds of some most frequently listened torturing words from society and followed by storms of negative emotions like worthless, fear, sadness, guilts, disappointment etc.

As a child I was a shy, timid but curious and thoughtful person born in a small village. My father was a schoolteacher while my mother was a housewife. Environment of my home and surrounding was not feasible to nurture the emotionally stable child. My father was kidnapped numbers of times and we used to have anxious, fearful, uncertain nights while in surrounding there were a lot of bullies who used to target myself worth by very pinching hurtful words, made me to shatter the image of my self identity. I started thinking, feeling and believing, talking, imagining like I am unworthy and incapable. As the initial life sowed the seed of unworthiness, self doubts , fear , anxiety , within me which I further nourished by comparing myself with others which further added the darkness within my soul. I used to visualize big dreams but my energy ,??drive to take bold , courageous actions was like being in a cage, strongly tied up with shackles of unworthiness , fear , anxiety. I used to look around from within, a self-held tightly closed cage, pondering continuously is everything all right to?moving slowly with hyper focused vigilant mind with scanning of something negative within and around me.

So, my self doubts came from bullying, harsh criticism and pressure of performance from family. Everyone will believe self-doubts are like a termite for our productivity, originality and true potential.

I know you are curious to know how I got rid of my trap of self-doubts. I have confidently?revealed my vulnerabilities, insecurities with honesty so far and obviously, with the intent to help you out, I am excited to share what worked well for me to get the freedom from self-doubts and feeling of unworthiness. Following are list of my actions:

1.Strong Faith in God

I kept on believing that whatever I am passing through there is true wisdom behind this experience and Allah Almighty will surely help me out and will take some important work from me. I used to believe that I am surely here to contribute my existence for some solid purpose and God has sent me with some true uniqueness and purpose. Though these uniqueness and purpose were suppressed a lot for a long time under the shackles of self-doubts but believing in Allah Almighty made me curious, resilient, energetic ,positive ,hopeful and kept me moving forward.

2.Big Dreams & Strong Commitment

I remember, when I was living and walking in narrow street of my native village, I was nothing at that time, average schooling, a lot of insecurities but I used to imagine a big dreams that I am living a life with full of contribution , my influence is at all over the world and I am growing continuously , unleashing my and other potential , unlocking mysteries of human and this universe . These dreams did their tremendous contribution in shaping me who I am today. These dreams were like a strong avalanche of energy, burning fire of passion, giving me relentless drive and momentum. I noticed there was a?surplus of power of commitment, dedication and promises which I made to myself that no matter what is going to happen with me, I shall keep on refining, growing myself toward a better and best version with every passing day.?

3.Self-Awareness

I spent a lot of time rolling out Who i am? What defines me? What does not define me? What is my true authenticity? What is my true uniqueness? What moves me forward? What do I need to achieve? Why am I living for? and many more very deeper questions, I brought into focus my attention. I remember the long reflection and time spent only with me with discovery of many crucial and vital answers with clarity, purpose and strong compelling vision.

4.Acceptability

I refused to own my story for a long period of time but once I owned my story and believed my story is what is making me unique. I personally felt once I accepted my story, negativity within me debilitated and positivity started emerging and boosted up my high morale with positive emotions.

5.Courage

I kept on challenging myself, fear was there, situations were hard to face but I did not avoid them. I jumped into panic and stretch zones of uncomfortable and vulnerable situations and accepted challenges and took initiatives. So, I kept on moving forward with this approach that boosted up my exposure, released my hidden, suppressed self-confidence.

6.Curiosity

I believe in some core hidden patterns for human success and universal laws and to explore, unlock the mysteries within me and the universe around me. I studied a lot and did some degrees and many international certifications in the field?psychology, social psychology, training and development, medical, leadership, businesses, management philosophies which gave me plenty of knowledge, wisdom and my new neural circuits started establishing new thoughts and emotional and behavior patterns.

7.Professional Help

I seek help from many professionals like trainers, mentors, coaches , psychologists and counsellors?who added their marvelous contribution in my self development and brightening up?my true potential.

What was the ultimate result of these strategies??

I, who was bound to certain geography, cognitively and emotionally to locality of my village turned into?outrageous, influencer, purposeful, consistent learner and I became a world class trainer and executive coach who has trained multinational and national organizations about leadership, management, emotional intelligence, mastery in communication and selling skills excellence. Moreover, my influence impacted the global communities, and I coached people from US, UK, Europe, Australia, Middle east and transformed their lives and helped them?to live up to their best authenticity and potential. It is amazing to imagine, perceive, believe, feel that I became the epitome of hope, growth, abundance, unconditional self-esteem, success, prosperity, happiness, satisfaction, purpose for many people across globe.

To Summarize, Recognize and acknowledge your self-doubts and unworthiness, Identify the root cause, challenge negative thoughts, take actions with courage and right strategy , know who you are, build strong faith on yourself and Almighty God , think big and don't hesitate to seek professional help.

Remember, healing self-doubt is a process that takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself and celebrate your progress along the way. I wish you a great , transformative healing journey.

If you feel that you are in the trap of self doubts,unworthiness , inferiority and you are welcome to contact and discuss with me . Feel free to drop me a message or comment.