He loves me, He loves me not
The 2003 French movie "He loves me, he loves me not (A la folie, pas du tout)" by director Laetitia Colombani starring actress Audrey Tautou has two stories in a movie. The French title comes from?girls picking a?petal off?a flower, saying?"Il?m'aime (he loves me)... un?peu?(a little),... beaucoup (a lot),... a la folie (madly),... pas du tout (not at all)."
In the first part of the?movie, we hear the story from Angelique, a talented art student who is passionately in love with Loic, a successful doctor married to a lawyer. Angelique is the love of his life, and he wants to leave his wife but cannot because she does not let him go. You feel sorry for Angelique.
In the second part of the?movie, we hear the story from Loic's perspective. Someone is stalking him and sending him flowers, love letters, and a painting and he cannot figure out what's going on. His relationship with his wife is in jeopardy because she believes he is having a secret affair. He gets paranoid and accuses one of his patients of stalking him. Finally, he figures out who is behind all of this madness. Now you feel sorry for Loic and are appalled at Angelique's obsession. She is no longer an innocent girl madly in love with a married man.
The 2006 animation "Hoodwinked" is a detective version of the old fable Red Riding Hood. In "Hoodwinked" Grizzly and Stork are cops investing the disturbance of the peace in a mountain village. The story is told four times. Little Red Riding Hood is not as na?ve as in the fable, and she has hidden motives. Granny is not as helpless as she lets on. Big Bad Wolf is not as fierce as he is known to be. Woodsman is not as brave as he is letting people believe. At the beginning of the movie, knowing the story of Little Red Riding Hood, everyone jumps to a conclusion. Then, slowly different perspectives are revealed, and the real story emerges.
Our life is not much different than a movie. We know our story from our perspective. We rarely ask other people what their story is. What's their perspective? How's our story different from theirs? Why? What's the real story when you put together different perspectives?
Before any big decisions are made, this is something useful to do to ensure that we have a clear understanding of the reality. Just as Grizzly and Stork in "Hoodwinked," we interview each and everyone involved in a situation, to form a complete picture prior to making any suggestions. This helps everyone to make better decisions and support others better.
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8 年I really like this, and now I want to watch those films! Thanks ??
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8 年Great post. The combination of good questioning skills and good listening skills is what is required.
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8 年You are right - truly listening is the key - most families members are not good at this trait.