Have You Identified the Root Problem?

Part of it is you’ve got to start somewhere and even if you don’t have all of the knowledge, I would try to find the people that you can help. I would also make sure that you don’t overinflate your counsel like in the early days to where you’re the panacea for opposites. There are a lot of coaches and business owners that are getting started. They don’t know what they’re doing and they’re trying to claim they’re an expert. I then go, “Here’s the big challenge. There are people that you can serve, that you can get mastery in and then move on.”

One of the ways that I got trained in speaking and in the way that I teach is I used to present for a three-day weekend on how to process pain rather than run from it. How to find your purpose and your passion and walk into it? It was something that I went through the process and I enjoyed it. I got good at what we were trying to share. I believe that your gifts prepare a place for you to stand. One of the assessments that I found that was valuable was, “What’s your internal motivational gift?” When I took the little two-minute quiz or tests, it said that teaching was my internal motivational gift. I thought, “I’m not smart enough” There’s a reason why I was saying that. We all have these negative tapes that are usually planted in our life when we’re a teenager.

When I was eighteen, I went to this college in Texas. When I got the first day, they said, “Mr. Dougher, do you realize that 99% of the rest of the freshmen in an order placed above you?” I remember he called me an idiot but I’m alive. That stuck. I worked hard. I figured it out. I ended up getting my BS degree. When I got out, I never wanted to be called an idiot ever again. I studied accelerated learning and memory and reading. I got to where I was as fast as I wanted to stay up there.

I remember anything I want like names, lists, presentations, whatever and it helped my career. The challenge was I was 40 when I saw that teaching was my internal motivational gift. I thought, “That’s a limiting belief.” What do you do with limiting beliefs? You confront them with the adult truth, not the that the eighteen-year-old mind was no longer present at 40 but I had bought that lie for 22 years. I read a book a week every week since I was 24. By the time I was 40, I’ve consistently done that. My point is that you break that, you take out the hot button and never want to be called an idiot. The challenge is that when we get out and we begin to help others. I always tell people, “The most valuable person climbing to your mountain is not the one that’s at the top. It’s the one that’s six feet in front of you because they know where the stones were that you could trip on.” Click here to read more: Strength Based Marketing And The Learning Path To Growth With Patrick Dougher (superbrandpublishing.com)