Have You Got A Post Divorce Bucket List?

Is this something you've heard of? You've probably heard of the term bucket list in general, this idea of having a list of things that you want to achieve in your life.

Are you aware that there are some women who actually have a post-divorce bucket list?

It's a list of things that women want to do, things they want to achieve, something to focus on and hope for during the depth of divorce.

Let me unpack that a little bit for you because there's more depth to it than it might first appear.

When you are in a divorce, particularly when you're divorcing a wealthy and powerful man, it's very traumatic, and it brings its own dynamic. Having something positive to focus on can be a real positive in your life,  something to think about and hold on to.

But more than that, it allows you to start to understand the life you want to live.

It is not uncommon for my clients to have been in relationships where they haven't got to be who they wanted to be, where there's been some control, some areas where they haven't necessarily been able to live a life that they would have chosen.

Divorce is a chance to reset. It's a chance to pause, reassess and think about the life you actually want to live.

And so that's where this post-divorce bucket list comes in.

It's a chance to think quite abstractly about things that you want to do and how. By taking those steps and writing out a list of those things, it creates deeper thinking about whom you want to be and the life that you want to lead.

When I work with clients, one of the things that we need to do is assess their current financial situation. We also need to assess their post-divorce financial situation and their retirement situation.

That means we need to have deeper meaningful conversations about those two areas of life as well and get to a stage where we've got a really good understanding of who you want to be, what you want your life to be like, your lifestyle, your home, your career, your family, what all of that's going to look like, so that we can cost it out.

Costing it out then allows us to stress test, sense test any settlement that is given to you.

As a natural part of financial planning, lifestyle financial planning, we have these conversations to think about the future ahead, to put some costs around it and the divorce bucket list is a great way to kick those conversations off.

If you haven't done it yet, get out a pen and paper, think about what do you want to have achieved?

What do you want to have done in two, three, four or five years time?

If you were looking back, who would you want to have been?

Where would you want to have gone?

What difference would you have wanted to make in the world?

What's going to be on your list?

I can't wait to hear more about it.