Have You Ever Lost Yourself?

Whether you lost yourself in a relationship or lost yourself in a role, whether you lost yourself in work or—and I hope this isn’t the case—lost yourself by deceiving yourself, only to fall prey to your own deceptions—or you just plain lost track of yourself over the months and years, learning to love yourself is the way to find yourself.

This loving yourself gets a little messy—right away. Because you must turn inward to discover just who this person you are is—and the first things that greet you will be… your emotions.

?And your emotions sometimes lie to you.

Yes. They do. Because our social conditioning has determined what emotions we can and cannot have. This is an oversimplification but I’m going to say it anyway: men get to be angry and successful. Women get to be sad and supportive and, if they work really, really hard, they also get to be successful.

You noticed it, didn’t you? “Supportive” and “successful” are not emotions.

I know. But what I just said is the truth.

It may take a while but getting in touch with your emotions is a valuable way to get closer to yourself.

But you have to be careful about the narratives that come with some of those emotions. This is another oversimplification but, hey, this is a short piece, right?

The narratives you may spin around your emotional experience are determined by your social conditioning, too. And determined by your beliefs and your experience and the way you have been treated by your family, friends, co-workers, and other members of your community.

?So then—and this can get even messier—it’s time to meet up with your physical body.

Because your body holds the most authentic aspects of you.

I know, I know: you try to ignore your physical body. Have you got it on a schedule? So there aren’t those pesky times when you are hungry and it’s not an official meal time? Or you’re sleepy and it’s not the time for sleepiness?

What about physical sensations? You keep those repressed, too, right? You get up to speak in front of a group and you live from the neck up, right?

But—and this is a big “but”—you’re going to have to start to respect the signals you get from your body. Heck, you may even have to respect your body! Even if it doesn’t “measure up.”

?I have to warn you: once you start on this path, the body and its sensations and its feelings and its needs will have a hard time being ignored. You may have to design your life to suit your body and its needs.

I know. That’s a shocker.

But here are some of the things that become possible once you do these things:

·???????? You will feel authentic from the inside out and you will come across as authentic.

·???????? You will embody your gifts—you may even develop charisma, the magic that sometimes occurs when we are fully embodied and living our purpose and expressing our gifts.

·???????? You will embody your message when you speak. (This one was hard for me. I was one of those talking heads in front of the room, shut down from the neck down. When I got in front of the room and I stayed in touch with my body, it was difficult at first. My body was scared! My body was nervous! But now my scared, nervous body and I speak and, together, we make a pretty good team!)

The ?You Are The Love Story - Self Love Summit is the perfect beginning. It’s 14 days of expert speakers and their best tips to help you begin this transformation now.

?And you can get access to all of it by clicking??here.?

Here are a few of the incredible people you’ll get the chance to hear from:?

·???? Coach & Facilitator Steffi Seefeld on Arriving Home - Falling in Love with Self

·???? Certified Life Coach and NLP Practitioner Tammy Vincent on Taming The Inner Critic With Self-compassion

·???? Master Energy and Embodiment Coach Katie Kozlowski on Embodying your Self Worth

·???? Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor Alana Van Der Sluys on Ditching Diet Culture

·???? Certified Somatic Sex Educator Dr. Claire Macaulay on Self Pleasure

·???? Integrative Human Design Guide Lauren Gale on Your Inner GPS and Signature Body Languages

·???? Soulhacker and Transformational Coach Dwight Dale Miller on The Key to Lasting Happiness

·???? Kim Knight on Restoring Trust

And me, Fran Gallaher, Intuitive Leadership Coach with Really Flourish speaking about our relationship with our body, its feelings, sensations, and emotions, and the wisdom of intuition that lives just below those messy bits.?

Those are just some of the teachers involved. I would list them all, but you should probably just head on over to the registration page and take a look for yourself?>> LINK TO THE OPT-IN PAGE

It’s free, but you have to save your seat to get access.

What are you waiting for? Claim your ticket to the online event?here.?

My talk will be aired Sunday, Feb. 2, on Being More Fully Embodied: https://speaker.youarethelovestory.com/Fran-Gallaher