Have you ever felt like leaving it all?
Kishore Shintre
#newdaynewchapter is a Blog narrative started on March 1, 2021 co-founded by Kishore Shintre & Sonia Bedi, to write a new chapter everyday for making "Life" and not just making a "living"
Those feelings come to everyone's life sometime or the other. And yes, I felt, and even continue to feel, that I want to go far away from everything and everyone, away from all the fuss and negativity in my life. And no, it's not escapism. It's not you running away from your responsibilities and duties of this human life that you have been given. The feeling of ‘running away’ shouldn't be taken so literally. It's simply means that you want to eliminate the people and things in life that make you sad, and start afresh, and moving to a new place is the most practical way to do so, because you can't literally cut ties with all those people just like that (it obviously isn't so easy and definitely not a great thing to do) and simply abandon everything you own.
However, if you are actually going to leave everything behind and just go, wait a moment and think. You have got your job at hand. Apart from just the earning, think of all the loving and supporting people in your career, even if it just literally one person. You have a whole future ahead of you. And you have the complete liberty to choose how you are going to spend it. Humans, after all, have been allotted a very limited amount of time to spend on earth as healthy, capable people (eliminating infanthood and old age. Of course, if you are confident enough to have a cool, adventurous life even in old age, then great!!
But hold on, instead of leaving it all and going away to uncharted territories at this age, why don't you take a break and decide to reboot the life's button? It's great to be spontaneous and free, if that is your nature, but don't be reckless. Start anew, but not exactly your entire life. Start your thoughts anew. Start your habits anew. Start various little things that actually make a hug difference. Smile often. Greet people with a pleasant and approachable attitude.
Create this little bubble of all things joyful and happy, and invite people you value, and people you would like to bond with into that bubble. It's much easier for me to just sit and type out all this, but I know it's isn't very easy to do, because I'm in the process of doing it myself. Go to a new place once in while as a tourist. It's doesn't have to be miles away. Go to that tiny tucked away cafe at the end of the street. Or to that tiny store which always seems to have the least costumers. Take a deep breath that talk to that one person that you always wanted to talk to. Confront that one awkward topic that you've been avoiding to talk about since ages and get over with it.
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If travel is your passion like me. My dream job is Travel Writing, plan a small trip with close people as a starter. If photography is your forte, grab that camera and click pictures of the nearest beautiful things and share it with your closest mates if you are scared of sharing through social media. Start reading that book you've been putting off since time immemorial. Go do it right now. Starting is scary, but once you have started, everything goes smoothly if you maintain the excitement and passion throughout.
Once you are capable and actually confident enough to go ‘away’ to a new place and not simply think about it, then go ahead! Move to your new place even if the budget or circumstances are a little uncomfortable. ?used to have this feeling every now and then. Then, I realized that it comes from the need to control everything, then failing at it. You want to control your future, your studies, your job. You want to set parameters in your every day life and watch the results unfold as you predicted. If things didn’t work out the way you expect, you feel tempted to run away from it all and start over from scratch.
My advice to you, would be to stop trying to control everything. Adopt a mindset of exploration instead of control. Allow yourself to be surprised instead of waiting for results. Meanwhile, do only the things you enjoy doing and try to eliminate those you don’t. Keep as few undesirable activities in your life as possible. Cut corners and eliminate everything you don’t like. Remove them one thing at a time, so that your mind has space for the most important and desirable things. Beyond that, just do things for the sake of it. Forget about the outcome. Realize that there is joy in doing something. Anything. It could be reading. Or, it could be stacking coins like this guy. Cheers!
Finance Associate @ RSM US LLP | Cost Accountant
2 年Yes Kishore Shintre. Many times, I too think in the same way. But I try to simply ignore.
Leading three important roles – Admin, HR and Finance in Vidya Poshak. Worked over 15 years i at Vidya Poshak
2 年So true......... Many times I also fee/felt the same ....The billion dollar question is where to go? How to go? Sometimes disconnecting few relationships are too difficult
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2 年Yes. So many times just like you.